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Update: This post was first written several years ago, but it still holds true today, so I wanted to share it again…

Things I never want our kids to forget: 

It comes down to family time.  Spending time with our children is so important, which is why I wanted to share the things we never want our kids to forget.  

As a mom, we can impact our children’s lives in more ways than we know.   If I could be any Mom in the world, I would be just like my mom.  I have remembered things about my childhood that I will never forget.  I want to do these things with my kids, too…

Mom waiting to hug children running towards her.

1).  You always greeted them at the door when they came home

My Mom was always waiting for us when we came home from school, from a friend’s house, from a party.  Giving your child your full attention when they see you after being away is important- let them know that you’ve missed them!

Whether you pick them up from preschool or daycare or if you see them when they come home from school- give them your full attention.  Get off the phone, computer, and tablet… and be there for your child.

2).  Seeing them was the best part of your day!

I try to greet our kids as my grandma greeted me when she saw me… as I had just made her day!  When our kids wake up, I say, “Oh, Allie!  I am so happy to see you this morning!  I missed you while we were sleeping!”

3). You treated them like they were important.

My parents have been married for over 35 years.  I heard them enjoying each other’s company every day.  They found ways to show each other that they loved one another.  When my husband & I got married, my Dad said: “Remember that if it is important to one of you, it is important.”  I see my parents living this every day.

4). You pray together at night

Our kids know that we will sit down and say our prayers together every night. Use our printable prayer hand to help teach your kids to pray.   (Or grab these Independent Prayer Cards for Kids) We read a devotional that teaches real-life stories (being kind to others, treating your sibling with respect).

5). You respected others… if you do, they will, too!

I always saw the way that my mom treated others and the way that she talked about others. It was never done negatively in front of us. She was always kind and if she had negative words to say about someone, I certainly didn’t know it.

6). You volunteered and they helped

Teaching our kids to volunteer when they are young is so important. Teach them why you take meals to women that have babies or why you send a card to that family when there has been a death. Let them join in.

7). You had them read to you every day & you read to them, too!

sweet little girl with mother reading book

Oh yes, I could go on and on about the educational benefit of reading (trust me- it is even more important than you think!), but I want to talk about the EMOTIONAL bond that happens when you read with your child.  My mom used to sit and read Little Women to me every night.  Just a few pages or even a chapter.  It didn’t take long, but here I sit, as an adult, remembering those moments fondly.

8). You cooked their favorite meal on their birthday

My mom made my favorite dinner every year on my birthday. We do this with our kids, too. We don’t go out to eat on their birthdays. Instead, we stay home and have all of their favorites! They love it!

9). They slept in your bed when they were sick.lie w me

Oh- sleeping in my parents’ bed when I was sick was such a treat (along with eating Mint Chocolate Chip ice cream, of course.)

10). Your cookies were awesome (because you let them help!)

Chocolate chips pouring from a measuring cup.

That smell of fresh chocolate chip cookies baking in the oven when your kids get home from school. There is a reason that you see it on commercials so often- because it is a happy memory.

11). They didn’t feel rushed with you

Stop being so rushed.  Take a minute to let them do what they need to do.  (Ex: Let them tie their own shoes even if it takes longer than when you do it.) What does it really matter if you are three minutes behind schedule? I have to remind my husband of this all the time… It’s ok if we are a few minutes late because today… our kids came first.

12). You listened closely when they talked…

I watched an episode on Oprah once, where Maya Angelou told Oprah that one time her son brought her a picture that he had made and when he showed it to her, she didn’t give him her full attention and just said something like “its nice”.

He then took that same picture, ripped it up and threw it in the garbage can.  When Maya Angelou, she asked him why he did that, he said that it was because she didn’t like it because she didn’t look at it.  She vowed then & there to pay attention to everything that he showed her.  Our children are watching us and waiting for us to pay attention to them.  To listen to them.

I always felt like I had my Mom’s full attention, and I still do.   I know that if I am talking to her, she is listening.  What a wonderful feeling to know that someone cares about you enough to really LISTEN

Related Post: “Look in my eyes when I talk”

13). You would LAY WITH THEM every night.

lay with me

When our children ask us that question… “Mommy, will you lay with me?” What do we normally say? “Just for a second, sweetie.  I have to clean up the kitchen and start laundry and…. ”

But… Do you know what?   This is when the good stuff comes out.    This is when I hear all of those stories, those little details that seven-year-olds don’t tell their moms anymore. This is when our mother/son relationship becomes a ‘one day best friend’ relationship.

14). You used to get on the floor to play with them (not just watch).

You used to play dress up, play pirates, play army guys, play princess… with your child and you enjoyed it!   Don’t let them forget that. I am a play therapist– it is my job to play with other children, but I need to remember that my OWN children need playtime.

Not just “let me sit and watch you” time.  They need mommy to get down on the floor or go outside and play one of these games, just to get engaged in the activity.  Schedule it if you have to, but make the time and play with your kids!

15). You took the time to be intentional about being together.

We ate dinner together ALMOST every night.  We didn’t care if we were eating grilled cheese sandwiches and tomato soup, we were eating it together.  The TV was NOT allowed to be on during mealtime because we were TALKING as a family.  Sometimes you can’t eat together as a family, but you can spend this time together somewhere else- so find that time and spend it together.

16).  You took an interest in THEIR interests

biggest fan

I  can remember when I was in high school and on the homecoming court, my mom gave me a card BEFORE the ceremony that said: “You will always be a queen in our eyes.”  It has been almost 15 years and I can still see her handwriting on that card.   She and my Dad have always been our biggest fans.  I pray that I continue this with our own children.

17).  You had FAITH IN THEM. (when they lost it in themselves)

When our son started reading, he really dreaded sitting down to read with me (I was a teacher, and I made him read like I made my students read). You should have seen his face when he realized that I had faith in him even when he didn’t have it in himself.

18).  You didn’t care if they saw you acting SILLY!

Do something that they love and do it because they love it!  Take their stuffed animal to work with you, teach them one of your favorite childhood games,  or have a dance party!   My kids love to laugh at (or with) me when I try one of the cool new dances they teach me. 🙂

19).  You supported their teacher.

Your child needs to know that you supported their teacher.  This teaches them to respect authority because you did!

23).  You were always so proud to be with them!

Be proud of who they are and what they do.  Don’t make excuses when you go out, such as “Oh- don’t mind his outfit.  He had practice today.”
I knew I had some ‘out-there’ style choices as a child (giant earrings, etc…), but I never felt like it mattered.  I never even thought about it because my mom never said anything to make me question it.  She always just felt proud to have me with her.

24).  You always hung up their masterpieces

Display their artwork in your home.  As a teacher, I took many classes about the importance of displaying their work. Hang it on your refrigerator, hang it in their bedroom, in your bedroom, in your garage (we have all of the pictures “of daddy” hanging by his workbench.)  Organize their school work & artwork, but keep and display some of it, too!

25).  You weren’t too proud to say I’m SORRY
fam rules

My mom used to tell me that I was always good at knowing when to say I’m sorry, and I tell our kids the same thing.  I also tell our kids I am sorry when I lose my temper.   (Do you know what has happened?  They have learned by example and are owning up to their own mistakes, as well.)

26).  You never compared them to others.

They are listening.  They will take it to heart.   Let them remember that you never compared them. If you want to raise your child to be a leader, don’t compare him to others.   Let him set the standard.

27). You were “SO MEAN!
a mean mother

28). Be a Role Model for them…

My mom is truly my best friend. As a teenager, I argued with her but needed her, all at the same time.  She and my Dad set high standards and my brother and I always aimed to reach them.   They were great role models for us and never allowed us to be disrespectful.   It pays off.

29). Generosity was displayed in your house.

I grew up watching my parents give.   My parents volunteered and have always helped others.  They give their time, money, and possessions.  They live by the “what’s mine is yours” rule, especially with family.   They are a SHINING example of what a volunteer looks like… My mom helped with Hospice House, Meals on Wheels, the American Cancer Society, the Soup Kitchen, etc…. My dad is always helping everyone, volunteers at the soup kitchen, etc…

They are generous and I want to be just like that.  I hope that by watching me, my kids will feel the same way.

30).  Patience was key and you had it.

Be patient in your home.  Be patient with your kids and be patient with your spouse.  Kids will have tantrums- and tantrums are OK sometimes.  Understand that they are kids, gently correct them, and love them all the more.

31).  You didn’t stress out about every little thing.

Did you know that they did a study and found that what kids want most from their parents is to see them being stress-free?  You can be a stress-free mom and let your kids see you enjoying life, not worrying about it!   Your kids will worry if you worry, so teach them not to ‘sweat the small stuff.’

32).  You didn’t clean up their messes!

I know you think you are helping, but you have to STOP doing that for your kids!  Teach them HOW to clean.  Teach them WHEN to clean.  Teach them where to clean.  Don’t do it for them.


33).  You smiled when they were with you

Before I had kids, my grandma would say, “When you have kids… ENJOY them!  Just love them and have fun with them. Enjoy them.”  She has passed away, but her words still ring true.   My mom really enjoyed being a mom— I could see it in her face, words, and hugs… every day.

I want our kids to feel that same way.  I want them to remember that I enjoyed spending time with them.  I loved it, I wanted to do it, I ENJOYED IT.  I hope they never forget these 33 things when they get older and have their own kids.


Thank you for reading these and making every minute count with your own kids!


When you realize you are Done Having Babies…
Mom holding her sleeping baby.

bed at 7

make each child feel important


Hi there!

I’m Becky, a former elementary school teacher turned certified child development therapist and blogger. I work at home with my husband and together we are raising (and partially homeschooling) our four children in the Carolinas. I love diet coke, ice cream, and spending time with my family.

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  1. Thanks so much for this post. My mom read to us nearly every night and it is such a sweet memory. I remember being in high school and she would be in the hallway between my sisters’ and my bedrooms, reading away. Keep on reading to your kids–they are never ‘too old”! Hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving.

    1. Hu, I saw that you are a play therapist. I looked into that when I read it and wanted to know how a parent can learn some play therapy to better understand their kids. Do you know of a way I can learn this with out trying t become a play therapist?


      1. I have a really hard time turning my mind off the to-do list and onto playing with the kids. I never had an imagination as a kid. I was always very practical so I am struggling now on how to relate to my kids in playing, how to enjoy playing and being silly. I am more about what needs to get done and letting them play on their own with each other. I homeschool so I feel n extra responsibility and struggle with playing. I think if I took play therapy class or something, it might help me know how to play I know this sounds weird but I need help please.


        1. I would just let your insecurities go and pretend to be a kid again. Sit and watch your child play for 20 minutes (that is a great start). Just mimic what they are doing and talk about it.
          “Oh- I like how you move the truck under that box. Is that the garage?”

        2. I’m a home school mom too…sit down and coler with them…sit down in the same box with them.. Some time’s it’s just positioning your self to their levial…read to them..hike..okay game’s..go camping…these day’s are short…when they still want to be around you…take the time to invest in them….

  2. I really thank you. All of the sentecne are important, so… i have a idea.. a put all of the on the big piece of paper and print it. After that a hang on the wall in the kitchen or living room.

  3. Number 22 for sure! I even tell my grandchildren now how beautiful they are (well, with the boys I say handsome!).

  4. This was wonderful! We have done or do many of these and sometimes I feel like it’s not enough. But to think back and remember them as regular meaningful moments makes it worth every effort to do them! Great post!

  5. We can help with many of these great tips, especially #6 (family volunteering) and #7 (finding big-hearted books to read together). Please visit our website for these and other resources.

  6. I love the one about cookies, it’s important for the children to feel like they are important and a part of and its important for us to let go of the control and let it be messy and imperfect. Good teaching moments.

  7. This was so precious.! EVERYTHING was so good…just wish I could “do it” perfectly…but that’s why we NEED our perfect Heavenly Father! So grateful for Jesus and His amazing grace and so grateful for everything you shared…now off to try and “do it”!!

  8. My parents were awesome. I was the oldest, first born child. My Mom and Dad worked at keeping our family happy, and healthy. When my brother was born, I helped my Mom with feeding my brother his bottle, changing diapers and just helping her with chores and things that needed to be done. Then later my sister was born. She was the last of us children. My Mom worked while I took care of my Brother and Sister. But it was not difficult. We lived in Vermont and had a beautiful huge house with gardens that Daddy seeded, and produced great vegetables and produce. He would sell numerous vegetables at the General store in our quint little town.. My grandparents were also very helpful, with taking care of us when we would visit them in their house. I was lucky to have grandparents that supported me as well. I stayed with my grandparents while I was in Nursing School.
    My life as a child was awesome and even though I had responsibilities I did not mind as I was raised right. God Bless my parents and my grandparents. They made me strong and reliable.