Maintaining a strong marriage is a lot harder than one would think, but it is also very possible to achieve. Your marriage can be growing in whatever season you are in.
Here are 25 tips that will change your marriage
(1) Make time for your marriage each and every day. Maybe it is 20 minutes talking every night or maybe eating breakfast together every morning, just the two of you.
(2) Let go of comparison and embrace your unique marriage. Comparison is the killer of many marriages. I’ve seen far too many marriages go through rough patches after a lot of “I did the dishes, while you watched TV…. Well… I cleaned out the car while you were at the store.” Don’t get into this cycle.
(3) Even when marriage becomes a test, you can grow closer together.
You have got to rely on each other – be the shoulder for the other one to cry on. You can stick together or move apart, so try to ban together in tough times.
(4) Remembering why you said “I do” can strengthen and renew your marriage.
If you forget the reasons, look back on your engagement times. Remember your dating times. Look at the person that you married and find the good in them. Find their strengths and let go of the weaknesses. Write down your reasons & then compare them. Are any the same?
(5) Learning to simplify your commitments is key for a growing marriage.
You have to find time to be together – and if that means letting go of the things that cause stress or take up too much time, so be it!
(6) Make the time to date your spouse.
Go out once a month or more, if you can. My friend goes out with her husband every Tuesday night. Her mom comes over and watches their daughters. You can even just have a game night or movie night after the kids go to bed (that’s what we do!)
(7) Create space to talk with your spouse.
We like to go out onto our back deck or front porch to just talk and hang out. Sometimes you need to get out of your normal routine (sitting in the living room with the TV on) to really connect.
(8) A strong marriage is more than just a beautiful wedding.
You have to remember this. A marriage isn’t a wedding – it is what happens after the wedding… for a lifetime.
(9) Visit somewhere new together for a fresh adventure.
This is great advice! If you can experience new things together, it will be so much fun for both of you! Go somewhere new, find a new restaurant, explore a new vacation spot with your family or just go to a new trail or park.
(10) Take some time to learn your spouse’s personality type.
I also suggest reading the 5 Love Languages to do this – this book is a must-read for married couples.
(11) Learning from others and sharing your struggles can be a great way to grow a deeper marriage.
You have to trust each other and talk to one another. I learned so much from my mom and dad.
(12) Sometimes you will annoy each other, and that is okay.
I heard one time that they key to being married is never falling out of love at the same time. Yes, sometimes living with someone every day will get on your nerves. They leave the towel on the floor or they leave their shoes out… remember that you can’t fester in that moment, but also know that it is normal.
(14) Start a weekly husband/wife meeting together.
Make a meal plan together, make a schedule together and make any plans for the upcoming week. Go over the calendar and talk about what you will be doing.
(15) Put your spouse first.
I read one time that you should treat your husband like a house-guest. If you get something, offer it to him. If you go out, talk to him about where you are going.
(17) Speak life into each other.
Your spouse needs to hear words of encouragement, too. They need to know that you appreciate them. Speaking kind words will build someone up quicker than anything I’ve ever seen.
(18) Kiss more than you complain.
Every day, kiss your spouse. Kiss them ‘goodbye’ when they leave and ‘welcome home’ when they get back. Hug them first thing in the morning and as the last thing before you go to bed. Hold their hand when you are walking or when you are sitting side by side. It matters.
(19) Support each other in whatever you do.
Your biggest fan should be your spouse. My dad once said “if it is important to your mom, it is important to me.”
(20) Don’t criticize and correct your spouse.
Never ever criticize or correct your spouse in public. It is humiliating. Mickey and I agreed never to “throw each other under the bus” when we are out. Instead, we stand united about all decisions. We also make it a point to never make one another feel like the root of our jokes.
(21) Speak each other’s love language. This is the best thing that you can do for your marriage, but you both have to be on board! Grab the 5 Love Languages book here.
(23) Be a champion for your spouse. Be their biggest fan and they will be yours. Your dreams are his dreams and his dreams are yours.
(24) The simple act of turning off your phone can provide a way to grow closer. Just put it down & concentrate on the person next to you. ♥
(25) Praying together and separately is a great practice for a strong marriage… just like talking. It bonds you & brings you closer for a deeper connection.
Updated: A friend of mine recently told me that this marriage course saved her marriage. I can’t speak from personal experience, but I can tell you that she & her husband are the closest that they have ever been (kind & respectful, but also just really seem to be ‘in love’ again).
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