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2 year old is still waking up at night? Advice from a Pediatrician

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Several years ago, when our child was still waking up at night (two years old at the time), I went into our Doctor’s office with this complaint…  “My 2-year-old is still waking up at night .”  Her advice changed our nights!


I was recently talking to a friend having the same issues, so I decided that if she needed some encouragement, others might, too.

2, 3, 4 year old waking up at night

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I wanted to share this with you because our son was the BEST sleeper.
He came home from the hospital and slept through the night.   
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At one year of age, he continued to sleep all night long.  He did this until he was about two years of age and then it started.  He started waking up at night and it was happening every night.  He was waking up not feeling rested… even, might I say… “Crabby”?

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Once we started watching his patterns more often, we realized that it was around the same time every night.  He was going to bed around 7:00 every night (6:00 if he didn’t nap at all) and waking up in the morning around 7:00 or 8:00.  If he goes to bed at 6:00, he wakes up between 6:50 & 7:30 – he always gets at least 12 hours, sometimes 13, which is about what he needs.

He started waking up at midnight, too.  He would wake up and cry.  We would just go in, cover him up and he would go back to sleep.  Sometimes he wanted a drink or different pajamas (not sure about this one, he just liked to change his pajamas – haha!)

It was impacting his mornings.

He just wasn’t acting like himself because he was waking up and not getting his much-needed rest. After a few weeks of this, I was exhausted (We have three other kids and one was a baby at the time.)  He was exhausted, too.  

This photo was taken around that time…  

 

I wish I could say that it was a short phase, but it kept going.  A few months later, I was even more exhausted.  When his 3-year well-check came around, this was brought up and we received great advice!

THIS ADVICE CHANGED HIS SLEEP PATTERNS AND HE BEGAN TO SLEEP ALL NIGHT LONG…

2, 3 or 4 year old waking at night

What you need to do:

She told us that when WE go to bed, go into his room first, hug him, kiss him, lay with them, cover him up…. all things to rouse him just a bit.  Wake him just enough to break him out of his sleep a little.  What this does is that it breaks up his sleep cycle.   He was waking when he was switching from his REM sleep.   Do not wake them up! Just make them stir a bit.

Don’t lie down with them or talk to them.  Just rub their back, tuck them in, give a kiss on the cheek… just enough to make them switch sleep cycles.  This brings them out of their sleep slightly, which is just enough to make them fall back into a deep sleep and hopefully sleep through the night.   I studied child development in college, so this makes complete sense to me, once she said it.


I wish I would have thought of it sooner!  It worked PERFECTLY!  He no longer woke up at night and he sleeps the full night.  I was so excited the first night and I have been happy ever since!  So the key is just to ‘stir him a bit’ before you go to bed.  That was it for us!  I hope that it works for you, too!

For more sleep tips, you are welcome to sign up here for my free email series called “Helping My Child Become a BETTER Sleeper.”

I will also send you a sample sleep schedule.

Ps- just for a little “inspiration”… our kids are now much older and everyone sleeps through the night… most nights. 🙂  It gets better- I promise.
These are the faces of well-rested kids. 🙂


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  2. This is very interesting. My son only slept that long from about 8 weeks to 4 months and then he would wake up several times in the night. Ever since about 5 months, we started to co-sleep. He wakes up several times a night, but only to latch back onto the breast to sleep. I haven’t worried about it really because a lot of breastfeeding moms I communicate with have the same thing. I try to take him off right as he falls asleep or right when he falls asleep so he’s not trying to jump back onto the breast. He sleeps for several hours like that but then wants the breast to get back to sleep again. He’s 16 months now. Some nights he does it very frequently and it can be frustrating but all in all, it doesn’t bother me too much. I know one day he will be sleeping fine and my breastfeeding days with him will be over. I wonder what will happen by the time he’s 2 or 3. We shall see! Thanks for the tip. I will keep it in mind as his sleep cycle changes.

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    • Our first son did this a lot- would wake a night (in his crib) & nurse back to sleep- I really didn’t mind it too much b/c I just loved that time w/ him- but now with four, sleep is a good thing! LOL! . 🙂

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    • Hi there Brittnei — I’m curious…how does your son sleep now? My son will be 4 next week and has only slept through the night a handful of times…ever. He still wakes and wants to nurse, even though he says he will stop nursing when he turns 4…which is a week from today. Just curious if you’re still nursing your child to sleep…I am over here.

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      • thats amazing that you still nurse your son at the age of 4. My daughter is 1 and a half and i was debating stopping or not as my family thinks she is too old. I was wondering how that works with school, is it just nursing at night or in the morning too? has he asked for it at school? Not being negative at all, was just curious how it works if i were to continue nursing my daughter

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        • Your little girl is still in the baby/toddler stage. If you want to continue nursing, I say go for it. Don’t let other people(even family) tell you it is time to stop. Personally, I would go til about 2, then start to wean. I had 3 children and was only able to breastfeed one. He weaned himself at 16m as my milk turned bad into my 3rd pregnancy. Family tried to tell me he was too old then. That was coming from my grandmother who nursed hers til age 4! They are only a baby a little while.

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        • I was surprised myself to Be nursing my son who will be 2 in March. He does not want to wean at all. It was always nursing on demand. It seems like it worked better the fourth time around and the only boy. The girls weaned off before the year. I’m holding on to this time as much as possible, but there are many days when I ask when will he be done nursing. Especially with little sleep. Good luck. Continue breastfeeding, it really is beneficial!

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      • I am so grateful for your post. My son just turned 2 -‘and he wants to nurse a few times a night (incl before he flies to sleep). I am losing my mind due to the lack of sleep. I am feeling conflicted as I work full time and have to get up for work, but I am not willing to let him cry-it-out either. We also have a 5-year-old and he loved nursing too, but I finally eased him off using the ‘no cry sleep solution’ method. He was much easier to wean. Not sure what to do. Would love to continue to pick your brain on this topic!

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        • @Angie Pannkuk, How many children do you have and how have you handled their sleep issues? I never could get mine to sleep thru at 4 months although that was definitely would’ve wonderful!

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      • Hi , my son is 2 years old and reading your stories makes me realize there is something very wrong with his sleep, he wakes up at night around 6/7 times , he takes 4/5 bottles of milk . I have tried everything and to be honest I have 2 other boys so when he does that I’m dead exhausted to keep him crying and just surrender and give him the milk! I don’t know where to start all this and he sleeps beside me ! Any guidance without judging would be appreciated, I’m a mum of 3 boys with no help around.

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        • No judging from me… we’re all moms 🙂
          I would talk to your doctor, but I think he could probably cut out all of the milk at night. You could replace it with water or make it cold so he doesn’t want it as much (that’s what we did). Plus, they will eat more in the day if they aren’t getting the calories at night. (ask your dr. first). But.. .once the milk isn’t there at night, the wake-ups should stop.

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        • Hi Zool. I have been goingthrough the exact same problem with my 2 yr old. He turned 2 in Feb. He used to be amazing sleeper then a couple months before his 2nd bday it all changed. I was wondering if your child is now sleeping all night. I have 2 older boys they never did this too me. I just really want better sleep for us

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    • I could have written this post – exactly what happens with my son. He turned 21 months on May 7. It is frustrating and tiring at times but I also realize it won’t last forever. And the bond we have is amazing. I love it and so does my husband.

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      • My three year old only sleeps in his bed 5 hours before waking and joining us in our bed. I was awake and just knew he would be up soon to sleep with us. I googled ideas to help him and found this. I was sceptical but i figured he’ll be up soon anyway if it doesn’t work. I went to him and fixed his blanket and caressed his face and he gave a stuttered breath and shifted. I went to bed and amazing he slept alone until 8:40 am! Wow. Something so simple. I hope it continues to work for us.

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        • I’m so glad you’re having success!! Fingers crossed you are all able to get some more sleep!

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    • I read the article with my wife because our son has a sleeping pattern issue as well, and, my wife was excited there’s an answer out there. I had to then inform her that these people that are writing the article are a bunch of unethical losers who take advantage of people’s love for their kids to sell their f*****g products. Thats in the “I just found out that Lully makes this little product” section. And its underlined with UPDATE. As I said, a bunch of unethical people. Shame on you

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  4. This is interesting but I’m not sure it’s working for our son :(. Our son is 20 months old and goes to bed around 7pm, we always go in to him before we go to bed to kiss him good night, make sure his blankets are on properly etc. He always only sleeps through to no later than 6am and is always waking at the same time each morning at 4.45am. We just can’t figure it out! It may be that he’s looking for his pacifier or he’s hungry…but it’s always the same time!

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    • Ugh- I wish I could help. OUr son was waking at midnight. When we started doing this (enough to ‘wake’ him a little bit), he started sleeping all night. Good luck!! Post back if you find something that works. I wish that I had something to tell you that would help.

      OH- I just remembered that our oldest son would wake like this for his pacifier, so we started keeping 3 in his bed- all in the corner, so he knew where they were! haha. 🙂

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      • If I were to start trying this is it something you have to constantly do or do they learn to sleep through the night again. I’m worried it’ll backfire and my daughter will wake too much and then want me. She is very good at falling asleep on her own when laid in her crib awake at night. It’s staying asleep. She generally wakes the same time every night around midnight.

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        • No- it just takes about a week and then they stop waking up. They might start again a year or so later, but just do it again.

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      • I do the same with the pacifiers got my almost 4yr old. He sleeps ttthenogtthenoght aasat midnight I go in and kiss him tell hhimi love him and put the blanket back on. My almost 2 yr old completely didiffent though 🙁

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      • Hi, when exactly do you go to stir them a bit? My 22 month old goes to sleep around 10pm (I know it’s so late, but he’s just not sleepy at all before that) and wakes up around 10am. Would I stir him around midnight? And how many nights so you do this for?
        Thank you in advance for the clarification!

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        • Usually around midnight 🙂 I still do it b/c I just check on them every night & give them a little kiss, cover them up, etc… 🙂

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  6. My son is 4 and has only slept through the night a few nights in a row, ever. I am definitely pinning this and going to try it with ours tonight!

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      • Any ideas to get a 2 year old sleep in his bed he was an awesome sleeper when he had a crib n he wants it back but he was too big for it as he is as big as a 3 and a half year old n almost hurt his self climbing out of it nothing is working .

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        • Honestly- we used our video monitor for this (I use it for so much!)! haha!! So we would watch our daughter when we started her in her toddler bed. The second that she would get out of bed, I would go in and say “Allie! No Ma’am! Get back into bed. If you want to come out, you call for Mommy.” I just had to do that a few times and that was it. She has been in it for over 6 months (I think) and still calls for me when she is ready to wake up.

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        • We use a “bunny clock” that shows a rabbit awake and playing on one half and him sleeping in his bed on the other half. It’s programmed to have the bunny “wake up” at the time we want our kids to wake up. We use it for nap and bed times and it works like a charm once they learn how to use it. We trained them by having it wake up before they usually do for a few days and then gradually adding time until they were getting up on time. It helped with late night and very early morning waking as well as waking too early to get up. We got ours on Amazon and I think there are a few other options, too (a friend has one that glows blue like the moon or yellow like the sun).

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        • My daughter had a really hard time transitioning to her bed from the crib. We found that it helped to take the crib mattress and put it on her bed and have her sleep on it. We did this for about a week then took the crib mattress away and she did great in the bed. Also, my mother gave me a rail which we attached to the bed and I think that it helped her to feel more secure, more like she was in a bigger crib. The rail was intended to keep her from rolling off of the bed and when this was no longer an issue we removed the rail as well. She is 3 now and is about to be a big sister 😉 Hope this helps!

          Jessica

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    • i just stumbled across this post. Our son is 3 1/2 and we have that same experience. He just doesn’t sleep thru. He wakes up yelling most nights. He just doesn’t want to be alone. Did your child grow out of this? It’s so exhausting.

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      • Ours always outgrew it with consistency (“I’ll come in and give you a hug, but not sleep in here.”)
        Good luck!

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      • Mine was 4 and waking up with nightmares every night at 1am, almost on the dot. I wasn’t a live-in step mommy yet, but I convinced her dad to switch from dessert every night (fruity sweet yogurt, ice cream, you know, DESSERT) to an after-lunch affair (and a lot less often) and instituted a bedtime snack of cheesestick or apple & peanut butter, something with a lot of fat & protein, and only a little sugar. From the very first night, she didn’t wake up anymore. Worked like a charm.

        10-12 hours is a LONG time to go without food, especially for tiny tummies. Give them something right before bed that will keep their blood sugar stable through the night, and I think a lot of these sleep issues would be solved. Not all, but a lot, and I think especially if they’re waking up at the same time every night. If you’ve excluded environmental factors (like the neighbor revving their loud diesel at 4:45am, or even just kicking the covers off during a lighter sleep stage) switching up food is worth trying to see if it helps. Heck, I made the same changes for myself (no sweets after dinner, always a snack if dinner was early or I stayed up late) and it’s made my sleep a lot more predictable and restful. And a lot fewer crabby headaches in the morning for everyone.

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        • So true- sugary snacks aren’t going to fill little tummies for very long!

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  12. Im new here and totally thrilled. Thank you sooooo much for posting this! Im going through this right now and will be putting your suggestions into effect ASAP!!

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    • 🙂 Good luck, Kathy! It seriously works (for us anyways). ON nights when I forget, he wakes up (like clock-work!) but when I remember, it works. SOmetimes I really move him around (move his legs, fix his blankets, rub his hair & kiss his head. All enough to really ‘stir’ him, but not wake him up completely 🙂

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      • My daughter goes to bed between 8-8:30 pm and we(my husband and I) go to bed shortly after this we are in bed by 9pm. So I don’t think this will help us much. She is also an early riser and 5-530am. And also waking during the night at least once but sometimes up to three times. She has always been this way. Talking to our docter he said because I breast fed and for just short of a year she was used to getting woke up to eat. She is also getting to the age were they remember their dreams and can wake up from that. She has been waking up and wanting to rock and as soon as I sit in the rocking chair she falls asleep with in two minutes. I am trying to let her cry it out and I will wait 10-15 minutes and sometimes she will go back to sleep. I have a full time job and I am exhausted and getting very crabby with my family because I need the rest. Any suggestions for me?

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        • How old is she? Two?
          I would probably just go in and not pick her up or anything, just cover her up and leave. We need our sleep as much as they do. I would do what you are doing, although it is hard.

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      • Do you have to continue this for the rest of his life then? Lol or when can you stoping erupting his sleep when u go to bed?

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        • haha- no. I just had to do it for a few weeks. 🙂 Then about a year later he did it again and I did the routine for a week or so and he stopped again. )

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  14. I want to try this, but I think my 2.5 year old daughter is a very light sleeper. I’m afraid that stirring her up just a bit would be difficult as she wakes up the second I touch her door or walk in her room. I’m pretty desperate though and can try it a few times to see what would happen.

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    • Our son is a very light sleeper, too. I’d give it a try. If I wake him up, I just give him some water and kiss him and tell him to go back to sleep.

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    • My son is almost 9 and when he sees something that scares him, he then has nightmares and wakes up nightly. It was 4:30 am, now it’s 2 am and he wants us to lie with him. I do the above. Every night I kiss him and sometimes he even opens his eyes, but mostly rolls over, is this enough or do I have to make him move etc? He still wakes up at 2 am saying nightmare. It becomes a habit I think. This happened when he was 3.5 and watched something scary and it took 3 years for him to stop waking up and coming in our room. I am hoping this does not last and goes away soon. Thanks

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  16. Hello my son is 2. 6 years old. He is waking up every night, we are desperate. We just cant fine out what to do. We have tried everything. Tonight I will try this out. I am not sure how should I do this. At about 8 I put him in his bed. We pray and kiss good night. Then he will hug me and falls asleep. Since he is a very light sleeper i will quietly get out of his bedroom. My question is…. When should I try to wake him up just enough to help him change to rem sleep…? Like an hour later or as soon as he falls sleep. . .?

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    • I would try it. I would wake him right before you go to bed (we go around midnight, so that’s when we do this). 🙂 I give him a kiss & says “I love you, E. Night night” and its just enough to wake him a little bit. He doesn’t open his eyes, just rolls over & we cover him back up.
      Good luck!!

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    • When our daughter started to wake up in the middle of the night, around 2.5 years old at which point she was fully day and night trained, (just short on sleepy verbal skills), we thought she was having nightmares. Ultimately she would pee,(we assumed out of fear) and then she would get extremely angry and upset. Then one night on a hunch we realized she might actually have to pee, we were l little slow on the uptake, we regularly asked her and she always said no. We started taking her 2/3 asleep to the bathroom, as soon as her little bum touched the toilet seat, and with her head resting on my shoulder, she did in fact have to pee, after wiping up, it was back to bed and back to sleep like she never missed a beat. She was actually upset at being woken up, and then not being listened to.

      She never actually peed the bed, just Dad trying to comfort her, and it was not her fault, she was trying to tell us, we just weren’t listening. Think outside the box, what have you got to loose for trying something that may or may not make complete sense at the time. Parenting is like a bad game of charades with competitors that don’t know the rules and refuse to tell you the answer.

      Best of luck figuring out your problems and finding solutions. You will make it through this, you must believe that.

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      • so funny!! Our 2 year old does this, too – she wakes if she has to use the potty (but on the plus side, she hasn’t wet her diaper at night since 23 months old) 🙂

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    • My 6 year old wakes up every night wanting us too so If this doesn’t work for you I have a suggestion that worked for us. We put a sleeping bag on our bedroom floor and told her if she wakes up and is scared she can come sleep in our room. This works really well as it never wakes us up zzzzz. Now I just have to figure out how to get my EBF 5 month old to stop waking up for feeds 5x a night.

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  18. This is interesting, and I can’t wait to try it tonight 🙂 my 2.5 year used to be a great sleeper.. But is now waking between 3.30/4 am and that’s to start the day.. My almost 5 year old still jumps into bed with us at some point in the night, he has mastered not waking us up climbing in because we send him back to his bed…

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  20. Do you think this will work on a 4 year old. She is able to fall asleep by herself at 7.30pm – 8pm but wakes at 1am or 3.30am – 4am and comes into our room. Before I go to bed I tuck her in and remove the books she was reading and I might wake her up by accident but she just rolls over and falls back to sleep but still wakes up in the middle of the night coming into our room:( However I did notice the last two nights she said something to me….guessing she was dreaming about something.

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    • I would try it. I also found that when our kids started waking up when they needed to go to the bathroom- it lasted a while & we went through this until they were able to go by themselves. Try out my post on night-training & see if that makes a difference if the waking before bed doesn’t help.

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  22. This REALLY WORKS!!! I read a ton of blogs, and I never comment, but I am so thankful and thrilled that I stumbled upon yours that I felt the need to comment! I have a 27 month old son, and he has been waking up throughout the night on and off since he was about 15 months. He had been previously sleeping through the night since about 1 month old, 12 hours straight with a 2-3 hour nap during the day. We could not figure out why this started and were unable to change it (and we are not fans of sleep training). It began to get REALLY exhausting about 3 months ago when we had our daughter. Waking up to put him back down 2-3 times a night plus then waking up around 6am to nurse her has been taking a toll on us. Three nights ago, my husband and I saw this and said, “What’s the worst that could happen? He’s already waking up at night.” So we tried this… And IT WORKED!! And this has been the third consecutive night that it worked!! Thank you SO MUCH for sharing this tip! I wasn’t sure whether we had to continue doing it every night or if once we did it a few times he would stop waking up, but I just saw your comment above saying that if you don’t do it, yours will wake up like clockwork! So we will be continuing to rouse him before we lay down! It is so worth the extra 30 seconds to get him to sleep through the entire night! I really cannot thank you enough!!

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    • Oh- I am so glad that it helped!!! 🙂 That’s awesome news. Thanks for leaving that comment- I love to know that these tips help!! yay!

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  24. Thank you for this! I can’t wait to try it out tonight. My 2 year old sounds a lot like yours. He was the perfect baby and perfect sleeper until the past month or so and is now getting up for drinks or wanting to read books in the middle of the night. We’re going crazy. 🙂 I’ll definitely give this tip a try!

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  26. Such simple but such great advice, I’m so glad it worked for you. I’ll be sharing this with my readers too, hopefully others will have the same success as you.

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  30. Hi my 5 month old is waking every 40minutes throughout the night,ive tried your tip but he just completly wakes up and ive to go through the whole process again of getting him to sleep again which can take up to an hour. He used to be a great sleepet up until 3 months,even his naps are disturbed now,he might sleep 10mins n is crying then.what am i doing wrong??

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    • I think for a 5 month old, you should read the book The Baby Whisperer- it was fantastic!!!!!

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      • No- he is just four, so he is really getting too old for a nap, but still sort of ‘needs one’. That hard transition point.

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  34. Hi Becky.

    My son is 3 years old, he is a very active boy, loves to run jump, energetic but won’t take naps. He goes to bed at 7.30 and usually wakes up at 6.30. But these couple of months he would wake up around 2 am or 3.40 am and go back to sleep at 5 am. It use to be ones a week, but now it’s like everyday …. i am getting tired…. will try to wake him up like you advice, hope it works so so so desperate….

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  36. Wish this would be something that could help my little guy. He’s a year and a half, and has never slept through the night. He usually wakes up several times BEFORE we go to bed, and then multiple times after we come to bed. He sleeps with his crib side-carred to the bed, and we generally do disturb him a bit when we come to bed, so that’s already happening.
    I’ve heard of this tip though, and glad it helps other folks.

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    • My daughter used to wake several times I took her to the doctor and was told she had thread worm I had no idea what this was she took medication and we all had to take a tablet and that first night after seeing doctor she slept much better some people have it and don’t even know they have it but it disturbs children at night worth a check x

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      • He is having so much trouble going to sleep and waking regularly throughout the night. Thank you so so so so so so so so much

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  38. Becky!!! You are my savior!! Well at least your pediatrician’s advice is hehe. We were desperate to have our son Chase sleep past 4:45 am and one night or should I say morning with red burning eyes I came a cross this blog! And Eureka! We have been doing this since then and it works like a charm. The earliest he has gotten up since we started is 6:30! *happy, happy dance*. Thank you, thank you! And please thank your pediatrician! She is obviously one of a kind!

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    • No way!! That’s awesome- I’m so glad that it was helpful! 😉

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  40. I’ve been trying this method with my 2.5yr old son who goes to bed at 7:15pm and consistently wakes up around 4:30am. It’s then a battle to get him back to sleep or at least stay in his room til 6am. This method had only worked 50% of the time. I’ve also tried shortening nap time, eliminating the nap and adjusting bedtime and I can’t for the life of me get my son to sleep through the night.

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    • Hmm… what does he want when he is waking up? Have you tried the super nanny method?

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      • What’s the super nanny method? I am also dealing with this issue with 2.5 y.o. twins 🙁

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        • Continuing to put them back to bed… over & over, without an explanation each time.

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  42. This has been haOpening with my 1 yr old son for about the last 2 weeks. He used to sleep 9-5 in his crib, then I’d pull him in bed with me and he’d sleep till 7/7:30. Then, the “wake up-transfer” started getting earlier and earlier, until now he goes to bed around 8, but wakes up screaming/crying around 10 and won’t go back to sleep unless he’s in bed with one of us (my hubby and I have started taking turns sleeping with him so one of us gets a good nights rest). In addition to the middle of the night transfer, he’s been waking up earlier (usually 5:30-6:30, but the other morning it was 4:30!!!!)
    Do you think he’s too young to start this technique? I’m so tired and miss sleeping with my husband

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    • Y-Quyen – Did this work for you? My son is almost 15 months and has never been a great sleeper, despite our trying different routines. He is currently going to bed at 7:30pm, and will wake at around 3 or 4 and will cry until you go in. Then we have to lay with him in his bedroom (spare bed) and stay there the rest of the night. Like you, we take turns so at least one gets a decent night sleep. Even then he is waking for the day at 5:30am.

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  44. Going to give this a try , my 13 month old keeps waking up at least 3 times a night, mostly teething (teething has not been kind , four teeth almost through the gum and all of her one year molars starting in). But still going to try it thanks for posting this info.

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  46. I def. Want to try this. My almost 3 yr old fights naps but when she does fall asleep sleeps almost 3 hrs. Her sleep has gotten worse since me having her sister and she wakes up more during the night than baby!! Its exhausting! How do you do this? I read and sing to her before bed. Do you think I should cut nap and get her to bed 7? Any advice welcomed! :). I am positive she is not getting enough rest!

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    • Our 2 1/2 year old is skipping her naps, too, but I am just starting to get rid of them & put her to bed around 6:45 or 7 because she is ready and she is sleeping all night until about 8:30 now. (She was starting to wake at night again when she would nap).

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  48. This worked ! Ok so far day 1 but after months and months of night terrors and sleep walking this is the first night he was ok. We were desperate for sleep as we have a 4 month old baby and between her and the 3 yr old waking I was up 5-6 x a night. Most of these were from the 3 yr old. We woke him before bed to retuck etc and this time made sure he was fully awake. So amazing he slept all night until 700 am without any sleep issues! Thanks for posting this! Hope this is our solution for all of us.

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  50. Hi!
    I’ve looked everywhere for info to help me with my 3.5 year old, she has woke up every night screaming kicking her feet and appearing to be extremely frustrated, she won’t talk to me while this is happening, when I ask her what’s wrong she screams louder, this at times goes on for an hour, only to happen again in an hour or so, she was a preemie born at 34 weeks, but is a very normal healthy toddler, cranky all day and I get no sleep, I’ve read the fact that this has gone on her whole life isn’t night terrors even though it seems that way, I’ve mentioned it to the dr many times who only says, nothing other than hmm she will out grow it, I’m loosing my mind what I would give to sleep a full night!! Any ideas or suggestions?

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      • Becky, sorry it took me awhile to respond holidays get crazy, she used to have a lot of ear infections and sinus infections when she was just a newborn, she was also a preemie but now has tubes in her ears shes on her 2nd set, I tried waking her up slightly shortly after falling asleep 1/2 hr to hour after sometimes helps sometimes doesn’t usually shes hard to arouse during that time so not sure if I’m not getting her awake enough or its just not helping. I’m starting to think she will never sleep through the night.

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        • 🙁 I hate that for you. I would ask her pediatrician at your next visit because they might have some good advice- ours always do.

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        • Cut out dairy products. Ears and dairy don’t mix for me… and my son. No dairy equals no ear issues. Good luck.

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    • My son did this also. Almost everynight. It was aweful. He could never tell me why was wrong…would be awake but had a far away look on his face…would scream and cry until suddenly he would be fine and go back to sleep until he did it again. We started a very rigorous bedtime schedule. Getting ready at the same time everynight and doing the same steps in the same order. We would talk about the fact that he was safe, that were there for him and in the other room, got a night light so his room wasn’t dark and then would say a good dream prayer and talk about how Jesus would watch over him and keep him safe while he slept. (Sorry don’t know if you are religious.) Amazingly it has stopped. He hasn’t woken up for over 3 months now and he was doing it nearly every night. Good luck.

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      • yes- I tell our kids, that, too! I tell them that Jesus puts a protective bubble around them when they ask him to… and that he sends his soldiers to stand guard at our house, like hedges surrounding the house. 🙂 It certainly puts me at ease and it works for them, too. Love that advice! Thanks!

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  52. My son co-slept with us until he was 1 1/2 and he is now almost 3 and still waking up. We are exhausted! I am trying this tonight though! Hoping it works!!

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  54. I’m crossing my fingers this will do the trick for my 4 year old. He’s been waking 2-3 times a night for probably a year now. It’s so frustrating because he developed ninja skills and crawls into our bed without waking us up so my husband & I wake up in the morning to him in between us. So we don’t have the chance to take him back to bed because we don’t know he’s there until we wake up in the morning. I asked our pediatrician at his 4 year appt for suggestions and was appalled when she said he needs to go to sleep by himself (not that appalling or unreasonable) and lock him in his room overnight. Ummm?? I’m looking to help him sleep, not traumatize the kid. Not to mention the safety issue of getting to him in case of a fire or other emergency. I loved her up until that comment. I don’t judge parents who lock their kids’ doors for other safety reasons like sleepwalking or whatever but the idea just does not sit well with me at all. So anyway, thank you for the suggestion & hopefully it works for us!

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  56. I tried this with my 3yo. We have been trying to wean her out of our bed into her own room. She wants to stay with us, and I totally see her point! But I don’t get much sleep with her in the bed. She will go down in her room okay, but get up in an hour or two and send the rest of the night with us. When I tried this- go in and rearrange blankets, kiss, etc, it accelerated her return to the big bed. Putting her back in her room at that point just feels cruel and not worth the fight. Any advice?

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    • NOt really- I would just say to pick something and stick with it. I would just keep putting her back to bed if that is the end result that you want, but I know its really hard. 🙁

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  58. Just found this post on Facebook going to try it my I’ll boy slept great from birth up to 12 hours a nite he’
    hit 19 mths then started waking up loads. We have put him into a toddler bed and tried every thing new blankets the supernanny technique which made him worse 10 weeks of no sleep he goes to bed between 830-9 wakes up at 12 or 1 then at 3or 4 am in the end I put him into bed with me as I shattered. I have watched him when he is asleep and he’s twitching like mad. Some times I can get him straight off by putting his blanket on other times it can take 5 times within his first or second wake up This as been going on for 10 weeks now so will try it tonight how long do u wait after he’s been asleep to go into him I go to bed between 1130/12.

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  60. For those who need help with child who gets up and comes into your bed: We went through the same thing and this is what worked for us. When our son was about 3 we put a sleeping bag on the floor next to my side of the bed and we told him if he was scared or needed company in the night he could come in and sleep in the bag, but he was NOT to wake us up. He was always put to bed in his own bed after the bedtime routine, but knew he could come to our room if he needed to. And the very first night we did that, we woke the next morning after a good night’s sleep and there he was in the sleeping bag waiting for us to wake up. After a few months, he came in less and less and it gradually stopped.

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  62. My 5 year old has been waking up anytime between 1-3 am for well over a year now. She gets up and comes down to my bed, or starts playing. the biggest thing is getting into the cupboards. She will have a couple yogurts or get into treats she isn’t suppose to. I thought a heavier bedtime snack like some oatmeal would help but that didn’t change anything. My room is in the basement and carrying her up two flights of stairs while I am half asleep is not an easy task. Any ideas to get her to sleep through the night and stay in her bed? I don’t usually hear her up, it’s when I go to roll over and realize I can’t because she hogs the bed lol

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    • haha!! For a 5 year old, I would go with a reward system, honestly. 🙂 Like one cotton ball per night & when she fills up her jar with cotton balls, she goes to the movies. ?

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  64. Thank you so much for sharing this advice!!!! It has worked for us all week!! Our little girl is 2 & her little brother will be making his arrival next month. I was worried about waking up extra times with her but now I will just go in and rouse her to say goodnight at a time when I am already up with him. She is so sweet, she never fully wakes up when I rouse her but she usually says I love you too 🙂 thanks again!!!

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    • I’m so glad that it worked!! 🙂
      PS- how extremely sweet that she says I love you!!! Be still my heart….

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  66. When my daughter started waking up in the middle of the night, we bought a Christmas tree timer and plugged a night light into it. We told her that if she woke up and the light was on, she needed to go back to sleep. If the light was off, she could get out of bed. We did have to talk about reasons she could get out of bed like go to the bathroom, sick, get a drink of water, but other than those kind of things, she needed to “roll over and go back to sleep.” This worked amazingly!! I know we set consequences from the beginning (Taking favorite toy away for a day, not let her do an activity she wanted to, etc.) but I don’t remember having any problems. I feel like she just didn’t understand when it was ok.

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  68. My son is 2 1/2 he was an amazing sleeper right from day 1 then about a month before our second was born who is now 4 months our oldest started waking up in the middle of the night and needing to be in mommy and daddy’s bed and refused to go back into his bed, now 5 months later he’s refusing to even sleep in his room even if I lay down with him he wants to be in our room and now he won’t stay in bed throws a tantrum unless I lay down with him till he falls asleep sometimes takes an hour or more he doesn’t want my husband he only wants mommy sometimes he sleeps all night and won’t wake up till and out 5 other nights he’s waking up almost every hour on the hour. He’s very routine always has been same thing every night since the day he was born bedtime 8 I’ve tried no naps earlier bed time… I’m almost at my white end… any advice?

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    • Also he’s still nursing that I’ve cut him off from till 5 in the morning he wakes up in the middle of the night wants boo I won’t give him any till 5 or later… we up graded his bed to a big boy bed he picked out his own sheets we try and make his room exciting but he doesn’t want to sleep there I need him to sleep on his own sleep I’m his bed and sleep all night long!! Not sure what happened or what went wrong :s

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      • I hear this so much – that two year olds wake up again. I would try my “keep your kids in their bed” post. Its a little more intense, but it worked for our kids.

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  70. This was great!! My 20 month old wakes up crying and upset MOST mornings…it is exhausting! We linked night terrors and random wake ups to his REM cycles, but have not tried this. Most the time her wakes up and screams 2-3 hours after bedtime and then again 1-2 hours before he gets up. Its usually less than a minutes and he can generally calm himself, but he wakes up SO grumpy and I am desperate for a happy baby! Will give it a shot 🙂

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  72. I inadvertently started this with my daughter and after reading this I recognize it does help her sleep a lot better than trying to get her to relax completely. She has had sleep problems since birth with night terrors and now on meletonin. But on the nights when we get a little silly before bed she does sleep through the night. Thanks for the awesome insight

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  74. I’m desperate for my children to start sleeping through the night. My oldest was a great sleeper until we moved when she was 3, now 6 and up at least once a night, my 3year old up at least 2 times a night and my 19month old up 2 times a night. With #4 on the way we need to sort this out. They are in bed between 7-730pm and do seem to wake at the same time each night. Wish me luck!

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  76. Thank you so much for sharing. My 2 year old has been waking up 2-3 times a night every night for a few months, and my husband and I are exhausted! I am trying this tonight!

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  78. so excited when I read this post because my son, who is 3, wakes up every night between 12 and 2. Some nights he is easy to get back to sleep and others not so much. So I have tried this….almost every night and it has made no difference. Still waking up. I move him around (if he is in a funky position in bed) kiss him, rub his head, whisper good night. Some times he has even talked to me in his sleep. Nothing. Still up. Am I doing it wrong? I was so hopeful this would help.

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    • Hmm- I know this will sound strange, but do you think that he is waking because he has to use the bathroom? Our daughter (2 1/2 did this for a while, until I started waking her up to take her to the potty before bed. She now skips that wake-up time. She didn’t really understand it, because she wasn’t telling me that she has to go, but it has helped completely 🙂

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  80. How many nights do you wake them for?
    Our 2 year wakes around 11.30pm/12am every night…
    I’m going to give this a go tonight

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    • Just about a week & then they just stop waking (well- Ethan did, anyway) . Good luck!!

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  82. My 6 yr old started waking in the middle of the night about a year ago. I am going to try this! Thank you.

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  84. Will this work on a 5 year old? My husbands daughter does this, and he’s convinced it’s cos she’s troubled with him and her mommy being divorced. However, they’ve been divorced since she was 2. So I’m not so sure.

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    • I’m not sure? I’d give it a try. 🙂 The logic behind it makes me think that it would work on any age.

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  86. Have you heard if this helps children younger than two? My son is 14 months and goes to bed at 7 and has been waking at 5. His naps have been out of whack too…. I don’t know if it’s teething or what… But it does make me nervous to go in and “wake” him up…

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    • I’m not sure- I haven’t tried it with our kids before they were two, but if you try it, let me know. 🙂

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  88. Our “little” one is 5.5 yrs now and always has slept on her own pretty well, has a regular 7.30pm bedtime and prefers her own bed, however since she’s been about 1 year old she does wake regularly at 2am with what we, the doctor and her paediatrician reckon are “leg cramps” no other physical evidence other than the pain that has her crying most times. This happens about 3 or 4 nights a week but as she’s been getting older it has been reducing and I sometimes get 7 nights (in a row) break in a month (over the past year mainly). I usually give pain relief, small drink of water, a heated teddy (by her legs) and I sit and rub her legs gently until she settles . I’ve tried a placebo pain relief but it does not work so I do think it’s genuine. We always do check on her before we go to bed and sometimes she does stir, so I’m now wondering if this coincides with the nights I get sleep??? Could it be possible that she’s waking from sleep pattern, not actually pain but then “feeling” an ache or two? It’s a puzzle, but I’ll try to really stir her each night before we go to bed and see if it makes a difference … But if you’ve any other suggestions I’m very ready to hear them!

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    • IT could be. I’d try waking her again to see if it works.
      PS- My husband said to tell you that when he was that age, his growing pains were so awful in his legs.
      Hope that helps!

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      • Thanks! Yes, I also remember awful “growing pains” (I’m over 6ft, 183cm) but cannot remember them waking me. Hubby looks blank when I mention growing pains so I guess he never suffered! By the way it worked last night, but I’ll keep an eye on it over a longer period to see what happens. You never miss sleep till it’s gone…

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        • Me, either, but Mickey swears by it. I just never felt them at all (lucky me, I guess)?

          I’m so glad that it worked last night!!! WOO-HOO!!! Keep me posted! 🙂

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    • Taking a little magnesium daily will fix restless legs and leg cramps. It did for me. You can buy it in a powdered form and mix with your liquid of choice.

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  90. My daughter is 5mo now. I usually breasfeed her at 7pm and put her to bed at 8pm. She wakes up at night once or twice for breastfeed, while she closes her eyes. But she always wake up before 6am (sometimes even at 5am), which means she sleeps less than 10 hours at night. During the day, it’s not easy to take her to nap. She naps only for 30 minutes sometimes, twice. I’m worried because I don’t think she sleeps enough.

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    • I am a worrier, too. I would check with your doctor, but I would think that if she seems happy and rested, she is probably fine. 🙂

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  92. Our 4 year old wakes nearly every night at 2.30/3.00 stays awake for up to 2hours. She goes to bed at 7.30 asleep by 8.00. I lift her at 10.30 every night to bring her to the toilet, she wakes up a bit. This doesn’t work for us. I am so tired, as is she.

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  94. Any advice for children who stay up late? I was always embarrassed to admit to people how late my son stayed up because I felt like a failure as a new parent (well beyond midnight). Then, when I had my 2nd & 3rd, I realized it was just my first. However, they don’t go to bed that early either 9:30ish). My mom said I stayed up all night when I was little too. I started giving my son melatonin and it has helped. All three are in bed by 10:30, but it still seems ate for their age (6 & 4 year old are up at 7, and 1 year old is up at 8). Thanks!

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  96. haha! Don’t be embarrassed. My best friend’s kids stay up until 11:00 and I get onto her about it all of the time. 🙂 My suggestion is to move it up by 30 minutes every week until you are at your bedtime… which would probably be around 8:00 (which means that you get them into bed about 7:45).
    I would cut out all naps & really get them out & moving in the mornings (active!!) so that they will be tired by 7:00.
    Good luck!

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Hi, I'm Becky Mansfield!

Founder of Your Modern Family. I am the wife to Mickey (my HS sweetheart) & the mom to four little blessings! I am a teacher turned child play therapist and stay at home Mom. I love to share my organization tips, kid ideas, money-saving tips and recipes with you. More About Becky...
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