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It is true that clutter causes stress. In fact, I shared in a previous post some studies that prove that clutter & stress are linked.  Clutter also affects your life and your family, but there are solutions that can clear your home of unwanted clutter and clear YOUR MIND of unwanted stress. Read on to see what works and how to start decluttering now.

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How Clutter Affects Your Life

Do you know who gets lost in this mix of cleaning & decluttering every day? Our family. Us. We are so busy trying to keep the house clean that we are losing sight of what really matters. We spend hours and hours trying to clean, find things that we’ve misplaced and just organize our stuff that we miss out on times with our family.

Clutter and Stress – You Aren’t Alone

I was listening to a re-run of The Oprah Show on the radio the other day. and she was interviewing a husband and wife with five children, talking about how they were stressed – as parents, as a married couple, as homeowners, and just in general, because their children seemed to be acting entitled and no one was appreciative of all of the “stuff” that they had (clutter = stress. It’s a proven fact).

The mother of the house felt like all she did was work to buy them things and then she couldn’t even keep up with what they had because, even though her home wasn’t messy, it felt cluttered, like they had ‘too much stuff’… So, Oprah asked this family to give something up for one week.

The family picked to give up two things:

  1. TV
  2. Toys.

The parents said that they had more toys than any child should have, which I’m sure so many of us can relate to. They had them in closets, toy boxes, in bins, etc… The sad part is that I think that is very common. This could have been me.

The One Week Experiment

For one week, the parents let each of their three children pick five toys to keep… 15 toys in total. Oprah’s crew came into the house and documented the whole thing. The kids cried when they told them about giving up these things. They were sad, upset, angry, and just plain mad. They did a little yelling, a little crying, and a lot of pouting. (Again, very common.)

The Result

After one week, the mother was interviewed, and she said that they didn’t even play with the five toys that they were allowed to pick. They each played with 1-2 toys because they would rather play pretend, play a board game, or play outside.

The kids were interviewed and talked about how much they loved the week without TV or many toys because they spent more time together, as a family.  

Mom & Dad said that they also loved it because they weren’t so busy trying to keep up with the house, put toys away, or buy new things. Instead of spending time on “stuff,” (organizing it, putting it away, cleaning it)… they had “time” to spend on their family.

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When You Need A Clutter Overhaul

I wasn’t planning on getting rid of a handful of things. No, I was planning a MAJOR DE-CLUTTERING! I actually made A Whole-Home Declutter Course that walks you through decluttering your home in 7 days. It comes with a Facebook group for additional support and includes my book, Freed from Clutter, for free. The course is a 7-day whole-home series that will help you go through your entire house.

Think About What Actually Needs Decluttering

All of my ‘clutter’ was put away in its space, but I was tired of it. I felt like all day long I was just trying to stay on top of keeping it put away and then one day I called my Mom (she often has to hear me vent, but luckily she listens and is always helpful) and just said: “We have too much stuff!”

  • Clothes: I had clothes from high school and college. Yep, but my husband did, too! We just kept them. We didn’t wear them, but “what if those sandals come back into style?” If they come back into style, I will buy new ones. I couldn’t stand it anymore.
  • Toys: What good are 100 toys in one room when your kids don’t play with them? Instead of being a fun place to escape to play, it has become a cluttered mess. Sure, I can throw it all into a toy box and hide the toys in these things, but I can tell you that our kids are not going to play with what they don’t see. They just don’t ever get to the bottom of the toy box, so why was I keeping all the toys?
  • Paper: I had medical records, house records, notes, notes & more notes. I had coloring books for each child… times three. (As in… 12 coloring books! Ridiculous, right?).
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How to Start Decluttering

Here is what I did:  Start small.  Decluttering your life happens a little a time and the decluttering process is no different.  Every day, for one week, I would use any spare time and take a garbage bag to a room. I would open every drawer, closet, door… and I would fill up that garbage bag.   Start with a junk drawer and toss things into a trash bag if you aren’t using it.   (with every broken pencil from that living room junk drawer that you throw away, you will reduce stress).

  • Clothes: I gathered the clothes that our kids no longer wore (or the ones that still fit, but just sat in the closet).  Channel your inner Marie Kondo (professional organizer).
  • Toys:  I donated toys that they didn’t play with or the ones that were missing a piece or two. I got rid of all of the paper clutter- receipts, medical records, etc… (almost every store, credit card company, bank & doctor’s office keeps a record of those).  Take the rest and organize them into storage solutions that work for you!  Our kids still have toys in their closet and some in our main living space (those toys are hidden!)
  • Paperwork: I decluttered the papers that I had: I threw away old paperwork, cards, crayons, books, office supplies that I wasn’t using. I got rid of all of the paper clutter- receipts, medical records, etc… (almost every store, credit card company, bank & doctor’s office keeps a record of those).
    TIP: I have a whole post on what to do with paper clutter. 
  • Extras:  I gathered things that had multiples, like extra blankets.

I just got rid of ALL of the clutter. It was a big job, but well worth the time and energy spent because I felt so much better when it was completed.   I slowly moved from room to room… laundry room, bathroom (medicine cabinet), etc…

The Hard Part About Decluttering

Here is the hard part for me…I normally like to sell things. I make a lot of money doing this, as you probably know if you’ve read my post: How to be a stay-at-home mom on one income.

Yes, I could have sold it all and made money (& I did consign a lot of stuff the week before I really de-cluttered, so I did make money on big-ticket items, like our train table), but I knew that I probably would never get around to selling all of my things (taking pictures, putting it online, or tagging for a consignment sale, taking the items to be sold, etc…).

I was so blessed to be given hand-me-downs for our daughter from various friends, so I knew that I could easily pay-it-forward by donating most of the items. Bonus – it’s also a tax write-off if you can donate it to somewhere like the Good Will or Habitat for Humanity.

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How Decluttering Benefits Your Life

There were two big “ah-ha” moments from doing all that decluttering.

  • Kids play more! Personally, I know that our kids would so much rather play with each other or with me over having toys. They would pick to play “spy” or “superhero” rather than sit with their toys all day (or walk around their toys, I should say.) They often choose to play with their DIY creativity kit or even do any of these kid activities that are quick to set up, but let them create and play for an hour!
  • Cutting back on toys cuts back on stress.  Declutter and Stress can now have a whole new meaning… as you get rid of the clutter in a house, no matter how much clutter you may have, the stress begins to go away.
    Cutting back on toys was a huge stress-reliever for me!
  • After we decluttered and got rid of extra things, I felt so much better knowing that the clutter was gone. In fact, my entire family felt better. The “stuff” had been causing me to feel overwhelmed, frustrated, upset and just overall stressed. When it was gone, I felt freed from the clutter.

How to Start decluttering Right NOW!

Here are some simple steps to take that can help you start decluttering your home and your life!

  1. You are welcome to download this chart (and one more) for free & join my free Clutter-Free challenge (click here to join):
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  2. Join me in this 30-day declutter challenge (join me on social media or via email for decluttering tips!).   We aren’t sharing those perfect Getty Images of homes that seem impossible… we are real families sharing what works!  We are decluttering together… one day at a time.
    Declutter Challenge - 30 days
  3. Put into action your decluttering plan. You dive right in with my step-by-step organizing book, where I will walk you through how to declutter every room in your home. freed from clutter book
  4. Or you can take it further and Enroll in the Whole Home Declutter Course  for just a few dollars more (I’ll send you the Freed From Clutter book for free as a WELCOME gift!)
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Hi there!

I’m Becky, a former elementary school teacher turned certified child development therapist and blogger. I work at home with my husband and together we are raising (and partially homeschooling) our four children in the Carolinas. I love diet coke, ice cream, and spending time with my family.

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  1. Do yourselves a favor and follow these plans. We moved 5 adults and 2 children in 1991 and I “purged” some then.
    In 1995 mom had a stroke sold her house and moved half their stuff here and we were using some of it. Finished caring for mom and started full time job , leaving at 7 am and returning at 7pm.
    Then mother in law went into care and her stuff came here too.
    Made a plan when I retired, if I go to basement for anything something must come up to go out/ donate/ throw out.
    Half of the stuff is gone, mostly big pieces . Made room for pool table and exercise equipment. Still many craft books and family pictures to go through but steady progress!

  2. My family & I recently had an out of state move, we had been anticipating it for a full year before, so I decided, that since we were going from 3600 square feet, to my mother’s home, while we build a tiny house, that de cluttering wasn’t just an emotional requirement, it was an absolute necessity!
    I started on the furniture, got rid of everything but the necessities; our beds, a dresser & nightstand each, plus a desk for our daughter & my online business. I was a little scared, yes, but after seeing the amount of available antiques & second hand furniture stores in the area where we were going, I wasn’t a bit concerned.
    This has been a great experience for my family, we spend more time together now, & I barely spent any time cleaning & keeping up, As well as helping my PTSD & subsequent depression, this also helps reduce our ecological footprint, how can you not love that?!

  3. Oh how I needed this encouragement to keep on with my decluttering journey. I recently did the toy declutter for my 2 year old and his favourite play thing now is a beanie with ears and oven mits and he crawls around the room like a dog, goes to show how imaginative our little pnes are.

  4. Freed from declutter course is awesome! I took this course and it changed my lifestyle for my family I highly recommend getting this course.

  5. Hi Becky,
    I ‘m so glad I found your website again. Two years ago, I used a 30-day decluttering your home using the KonMari Method article that you put together. I found it so helpful. However, I was looking for the link but couldn’t find it. Do you still offer the 30-day declutter your home Mari Kondo style challenge? I’d love to know how I can find that again.

  6. I would like to reply to the lady that said it was hard for her to donate stuff. I had my first child at 16 if it wasn’t for items at Salvation Army & Goodwill I don’t know how I would have clothed him. Now as a widow in my senior yrs I am thrilled to death to find something decent to wear at those same stores. Your donations help so many people & do so much good. I, however was definitively raised to be thankful & not “entitled “.