This week I am sharing a few more reads to get you through the weekend…
Today’s books are all about introducing our children to physical intimacy through God’s word. I want our children to be very pure in their lives and education and knowledge are the ways that I am going to accomplish this.
For now, our boys could care less about the whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing.
They are into sports, video games, Duck Dynasty (haha!), legos & their friends. They love spending time playing games with us and they look forward to their one-on-one nights every month. So, while this topic might be far away or just around the bend for them, I feel like it is best teach them now, because I heard kids their age using the words ‘girlfriend’ and ‘boyfriend’ a little too loosely for my tastes…
Our kids are too young for the boyfriend/girlfriend talk that I hear on the radio or on the kid’s TV shows & movies. They are 7 (almost 8), 6, 4 and one. It has become second nature for kids their age to say “He is my boyfriend” or “Oh- she is my girlfriend.”
I just don’t want OUR kids thinking this way.
Plus, we need to teach our children at a young age that they are important… just as they are- they don’t need to do or say “the cool thing” to be important! (the lessons that my mom and dad have taught us have been building blocks for my brother and I… read them here: 10 lessons I learned from my mom)
My kids have heard me say this again and again:
- “You know that are not allowed to have a girlfriend, right? I know that you don’t have one, but I just want to make sure that you know that it would not be OK. One day God will find someone for you, when you are older…and Daddy and I tell you that you that it is OK. So, if anyone asks you to be their girlfriend, you just let them know that you aren’t allowed to have one. “
- I have talked to our older boys about how we do not kiss anyone (I shouldn’t have to talk to them about this, but with our society being the way that it is, I feel like I need to talk to our older boys about this. With school starting back up, and our kids being around other children that are raised completely different from the way that we raise our kids, I felt like it needed to be said to our boys.)
- I have told them that they are not allowed to watch shows that talk ‘disrespectfully’ about boys or girls.
I know that it is normal to have crushes, but it is not OK to act on them, right now, at this age. I want our kids to know that God has made his laws for us to follow and that may seem old-fashioned to many of you, but it is how my husband and I have decided to raise our kids. I can remember being in elementary school and friends of mine having boyfriends/girlfriends and kissing (& more!) , so I know that it is going on. I was in first grade when I remember this going on. Unfortunately, kids are exposed to conversations and ideas at such a young age due to TV, magazines, commercials, and friend’s conversations.
- I know that it may not be ‘cool’ or modern’ to be so conservative in our views, but this is simply how we want to raise our children.
- I also have the good touch/bad touch talk with our kids from a young age. I just give them a very basic description at first, and I continue to have this talk with them every few months. With the many horror stories that I hear, we are taking every precaution that we can. These conversations, hard or uncomfortable as they may be, are necessary.
- Lastly, our kids need to guard their hearts, as well. I want our kids to feel as if they are giving themselves completely to the one that God has for them, one day…
“You’re gonna have all of me
You’re gonna have all of me
‘Cause you’re worth every falling tear
You’re worth facing any fear
You’re gonna know all my love
Even if it’s not enough
Enough to mend our broken heart
But giving you all of me is where I’ll start”
Because this has been on my mind, with school just around the bend… I wanted to share these books with you.
Here are a few books that I suggest…
Book # 1
1). Teaching the Birds and the Bees Without the Butterflies:
A Stress-Free Guide for Parents on How to Talk to Young Children About Sex From a Christian Perspective.
Book # 2
2- The Talk – I only recently heard about it, so I had to share it with you. I have not read this one myself (like the one above) but it is on my weekend to-read list, so perhaps you will add it to yours, as well. I liked it because it is geared towards younger kids. Our oldest boys are 6 and 7 (almost 8) so I think that this book is going to be very helpful. I look forward to reading it.
Book # 3
Book # 4
4. Praying Circles:
As Batterson says, “I realize that not everyone inherited a prayer legacy like I did, but you can leave a legacy for generations to come. Your prayers have the power to shape the destiny of your children and your children’s children. It’s time to start circling.”
You can find these books & other suggestions in my Amazon store right here
Do you think that the conversation of boyfriends & girlfriends is starting too young?