Should I put a TV in my kid’s bedroom? I won’t be doing this anytime soon, but probably not for the reason you think.
Please read this post, in its entirety, before you comment, because you will see that this is simply what we have picked for OUR family, but certainly not to say that it is right for YOUR family. ♥ ‘Different strokes for different folks.’
I allow TV time. I allow electronic time. I allow time for apps and games… but they all happen at times that we have given permission. So… will I allow our kids to have a TV in their bedrooms? To have their phones or electronics in their rooms? No… but it is probably for a reason that is different from what you may think.
“Mom, can I PLEASE have a TV for my room? All of my friends have one!” Yes, our kids have asked me about it… often. I always say “No.” I just won’t cave on this one for many years. I’m sure that by the time that they are getting ready to head off to college, our plans on this will have changed, but for now, I hold my ground. I never had a TV in my room growing up and I don’t want the kids to, either. The reason, however, is probably not why you think.
The real reason is that we have four kids and if I put a TV in each of their rooms, I don’t think that I would ever see them… OK, I’m sure I would, but it would be much less than I see them and hang out with them now.
Have you ever heard the old song:
With fewer walls to separate
Where you eat and sleep so close together
You can’t help but communicate
Oh, and if we had more room between us, think of all we’d miss
Love grows best, in houses just like this”.”
That kind of sums it up, in a way… being with your family is the best way to bond with your family.
I want to be where my kids are and I want our kids to be where we are. I want to enjoy our time together while they are young and living at home. I want to be able to talk to them about what they see and laugh with them at all of the funny parts in the show. I want to interact with them and I want them to interact with one another.
Each of our kids have their own bedroom and to think that they would be off watching a show, in their room, without us just makes me feel like I would be missing so much time with them.
Our children are growing up so quickly. Their time with me is getting to be less and less, and soon college and other adventures will be calling their names. This is the time for us to grow as a family and for our kids to learn to really become each other’s best friends.
For that reason, Mickey and I won’t be putting a TV in our children’s rooms just yet. I know that one day they will grow up and want to do things without us (in fact, I’m sure of it), but for now, we are going to work really hard at building these bonds that will last a lifetime and this is just one way that we are doing that.
What do you think? Would this work for your family?
Remember… we only have a few years to really be present in their lives. Let’s spend these years wisely.
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