I wanted to write about why I really do enjoy spending time with our kids because it doesn’t matter if I am lying down with them or just baking something in the kitchen– the time with them is important.
Being a parent is HARD
I think that being a parent is a roller-coaster of emotions… filled with ups and downs. It’s up to us, their parents, to remember the fact that even though things are hard, our kids need us & love us… and we need & love them right back. ♥
I want to share a story that pulled at my heartstring…
My friend, Sharla, wrote this:
“Perspective can change so quickly. Today, I get to plan a birthday party for my son while a friend has to plan a funeral for hers.
So many of the things I often think of as a chore are actually an incredible privilege.”
How incredibly true. Being a mom is a privilege. I’m blessed to be called Mother by four beautiful children and not a day goes by that I don’t remember that and recognize it. It wasn’t easy for us to have children and it’s not something that I take lightly.
The hardest part is that it sometimes takes a rude awakening to realize that nothing is for sure. Anyone could wake up tomorrow and it could all be gone. That’s so sad but so true.
Six friends of mine have lost their children over the past several years.
- One of my friends woke up to find her son had passed away in his sleep.
- One of my friends went on a family vacation when her one-year-old daughter passed out and never woke up.
- Last year, one of my friends received the phone call that her teenage son was in a car accident and didn’t survive.
- Another friend’s daughter died in an accident at home and then just this year, my other friend lost her son to drowning.
- Yesterday, a fellow blogger lost her son to a boating accident.
You just never know what tomorrow will bring.
Just writing these words makes me fill with tears… not just filled with tears- I have tears rolling down my face because the mere thought of losing one of my children is an unbearable thought. It literally makes my stomach hurt. I have to put it out of my mind.
So while motherhood may be hard today
You might make 4 lunches that no one eats, you might make a dinner that looks great and have your kids complain because it isn’t chicken nuggets, you might have to change your child’s shirt because they spilled milk on it right before school, you might be exhausted because the kids woke up last night, but you know what? We have them… they are ours.
They are here and I get to talk to them and hug them and tell them how much I love them every single day.
How amazing is that, just in itself?
My grandma used to say “If you aren’t going to enjoy being with your kids… why have them?” She said it all of the time. I took it in, even before I had kids, and it has stayed in my heart all these years.
(I love this little reminder that I found on K-Love)
Try to soak in these moments and just enjoy them. Don’t just go through the motions.
- If you are stressed, there is a reason. Maybe you are doing everything for your kids, but remember that your kids WANT to feel like they are contributing. They want to feel valued. If your kids need to do more, TEACH them to do more. Don’t expect it until you teach it. At the same time, kids need to feel respected and loved, so respect and love them. Let them feel valued and appreciated, just like YOU want to feel valued and appreciated. What goes around comes around.
- Let them talk to you. Whenever they want. Listen to them, without giving advice and without passing judgment.
- Play pretend with your kids.
- Bake cookies with them.
- Laugh at their knock-knock jokes that don’t make any sense.
- Hold them responsible for their choices.
- Give them responsibilities around the house and be sure that they are completed.
- Build lego sets and let them do it, even if it takes them an hour longer for them to do it than it would take you.
- Encourage them to do their chores, even though it is easier for you to just do it.
- Read with them and let them ask you questions while you read (the same book for the 3rd time today)
- Remind them that they matter in your family and they need to help. We can’t do it without everyone. We all play a role.
- Cuddle them
- Turn off all electronics, then collect them and keep them for a few weeks (trust me on this one- they’ll be happier!)
- Play a board game with them.
- Be with your kids today and just enjoy being with them.
- Love them. Let them love you. Say it often and remember it every day.
- Hug them often… and mean it.
- Be grateful. Say three things that you are grateful for every day, but encourage your kids to do the same. (Do it at dinnertime)
- Did you know that a child’s biggest worry is that his parent is stressed? Be happy … your kids will be happy right back.♥
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