This post may contain affiliate links. Please read our disclosure policy.

Today I wanted to share 5 ways to be closer to your spouse, because it is important in a marriage.
closer to spouse

My husband and I were high school sweethearts  (& college sweethearts) before we were married.  We have now been married for ten years and we have four children together.   I write a lot about marriage, because I think that keeping your marriage a priority it very important.
becky mansfield
Here are 5 ways that I have found to keep our marriage strong: 

1- Bring him into my interests.
I talk about my interests…  working out, my job as a play therapist, the kid’s playdates…  so I love to have him on board with it.
For example, when talking about working out: I like to find healthy meal options that we can prepare together (he loves to cook).  I love to show him what I’ve done at the gym (while he laughs at my uncoordinated moves) and to talk to him about my classes, etc…  It keeps him involved.

2- Listen to HIS interests. 
I listen to him talk about work, even though I don’t know any of the people that he is talking about.  I just listen, like I would listen when a friend was talking.

3- Treat your spouse like a houseguest. 
Offer to get him a drink when you get one.  Offer to grab him a blanket if he looks cold.   Just simple things to let him know that you care.

4- Send him text messages throughout the day. 
I send my husband about ten texts a day- just simple things like “Love you” or “Miss you” or even little pictures of the kids playing.  I just him to know that we are thinking about him, even when he isn’t here.

5- Let him relax a little after work. 
This one is HARD for me.  I have been home all day with the kids and I am ready to hand off the towel to him, but I have to remember that he has just put in 10-12 hours at work, too.   I usually do need his help right away when he gets home, but if he and the kids want to snuggle up to watch a show for 15 minutes instead of helping in the kitchen, that works, too.  (The kids need that snuggle/relax time as much as he does!)

Now that we are talking about marriages… lets talk about dating your husband!
Are you ready for an unforgettable date night? I’ve teamed up with some of my favorite bloggers to offer you one of the best stay-at-home date nights ever…
I am teaming up with Lisa of Club31Women, Alison of Pint-Sized Treasures, Melissa of A Virtuous Woman, Crystal of Crystal & Co and MaryEllen of Imperfect Homemaker.
This HUGE package of date-night goodies will arrive on your doorstep just in time for Valentine’s Day!

smiling couple hugging

So what’s included in this amazing date night package?

Here’s the scoop!

Love jewelry? What woman doesn’t! Enjoy this $100 gift certificate to Luxe Design. They offer a fabulous selection of personalized and sentimental jewelry. They have a number of items that would be perfect for wives who wish to wear a tangible reminder of their choice to love their husband.


What’s Valentine’s Day without chocolate? Of course we only included the very best for our readers — Godiva Truffles!


Are you a Dayspring fan? We are offering some super-fun gifts form them to celebrate your marriage! These will add the perfect pinch of romance and sentimentality to your at-home date with these gifts below:

Mr and Mrs. Coupon Book
Mr. and Mrs. Love Note Set
Love Never Fails Plaque

coupon book

How about some items to help you freshen up for your date? Don’t worry, we thought about that too! The winner will enjoy the following products from a fun place to shop for moms — Zulily.

Liz Claiborne Spark Eau de Parfum
Adrienne Vittadini Bright Five-Piece Lip Gloss Set
City Color Cosmetics Vibrant Palette Makeup Set
Raspberry Foaming Milkshake Bubble Bath

lip gloss

For some awesome, inspirational reading, we are also including hard copies of the following books:

100 Ways to Love Your Husband: A Life-Long Journey of Learning to Love (by Lisa Jacobson)

100 Ways to Love Your Wife: A Life-long Journey of Learning to Love Each Other (By Matthew Jacobson)


Since it’s Valentine’s Day, we thought you needed some extra sparkle!

Enjoy some extra shopping by choosing one gift from these
stores (item will be shipped separately from the winner’s package):

Monarch Jewelry

monarch jewelry

To finish it all off, enjoy a good scrub and long soak with these natural bath products. Get ready for some pampering with this HUGE basket of goodies from the Bend Soap Company.

3 Lotions
3 Soaps
1 Milk Bath in a bag
2 Travel Size soaps
2 soap dishes
1 Natural Loofah Pouch
1 Foot Scrub Brush
$25 Gift certificate

These goodies all come in a reusable stylish antique copper tin. Soaps and lotions are in the following fabulous scents: Oatmeal and Honey, Cranberry Wassail, English Garden, Lemon Verbena, Island Coconut, Sweet Orange, Almond Delight, Eucalyptus Spearmint, and High Desert Rain. Bend Soap Company makes natural goat milk soaps and lotions on their farm in Bend, Oregon. Made with only the highest quality of ingredients, including farm fresh goat milk, coconut oil, olive oil, and palm oil. The luxurious, handmade products soothe dry skin and offer a nourishing elixir to the skin in place of the common commercial skin care products on the market. Choose to Love Your Skin … One bar at a time with Bend Soap Company. Visit their website and order online at

bend soap image

Enter below for your chance to enter this HUGE Stay-at-home Date Night Package. Happy Valentine’s Day!

a Rafflecopter giveaway

This giveaway is only open to US residents, due to shipping. Thanks!

Hi there!

I’m Becky, a former elementary school teacher turned certified child development therapist and blogger. I work at home with my husband and together we are raising (and partially homeschooling) our four children in the Carolinas. I love diet coke, ice cream, and spending time with my family.

You May Also Like

Leave a comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.


  1. My h<3sband and I desperately need this right now. 5 kids including an infant and we are swamped in bills with diapers and laundry to the roof. We too often forget to even look at each other.

  2. I wish everyone good luck who enters! My hubby and I have been struggling and I think we could definitely use this. The five ways to be closer to your spouse post really opened my eyes. I will have to give it a try! Thanks for those tips!

  3. I can’t tell you how much I love this. I LOVE advocating better marriages! Thanks so much!