Today I am talking about why more kids make me carefree, because it was really on my mind to figure out why I feel like more kids = less stress.
Last year, I went to NYC to do an interview with Kelly Ripa & she asked me “How do you do it all?” My answer always remains the same: I can’t do it all and I don’t do it all, but I do the best that I can and our family is happy.
There was an article published recently that confirmed what I was thinking… the title is “The happiest parents have 4 kids” (although I think the number could go less or more & still be accurate)
“A new study finds that the happiest parents are those who have four or more kids according to The Daily Signal, a study conducted by Australia’s Edith Cowan University found parents had the most life satisfaction with larger families.
“[The parents] usually say they always wanted a large family, it was planned that way, and it was a lifestyle they’d chosen,” study author Dr. Bronwyn Harman said, according to The Daily Signal.
The study also revealed that children of larger families are more independent at a younger age and always have friends.”
You can’t be perfect in your life. You can’t raise perfect kids or have perfect parenting moments all of the time. You can’t maintain a perfect house, and have your kids running around and playing in it. You can’t cook perfect meals every day that your family praises. It just isn’t real life… and I don’t expect it to be.
If I have to go to football practice for one son at the same time as soccer practice for another son… I realize that one of the kids will be late or one will be really early. I can’t change it, so I am not going to stress about it. We will be there. If I realize that we have a doctors appointment in 15 minutes and time got away from me, instead of stressing about it and yelling at the kids, I will just tell everyone to get their shoes on (or I’ll take their shoes to the car & ask the kids to get in & put them on in there) and I will call the office on the way to say “We are going to be 10 minutes late. Do I need to reschedule?” 99% of the time, the answer is “no, you’re fine. Come on in.” I don’t stress about it. We are doing fine.
When we don’t get to eat a well-balanced meal for dinner, because we were too busy to fit it in, and they had to have McDonalds or Mac & Cheese (again), I just remember that there are other meals in the future and we can eat better at that one. This is good enough. Sometimes, your 3 year old daughter wants to wear her play shoes out for the day… and you let her, because it makes her smile SO BIG and isn’t that what really matters?