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MOM: “Ok, so tomorrow you want to wear this outfit, right?”
CHILD: “Yep!”
MOM:  “OK, so I am going to just put it on your dresser and when you wake up, just get dressed, Ok?”
CHILD: “Ok, Mom.”


Please tell me that you can relate… even just a little?   I will pick out clothes for our kids and in the morning, they change their minds, or the clothes feel itchy, or the shirt is suddenly too big or too small.   This used to happen to us all of the time!   I finally found a solution for When your kids won’t wear what you’ve picked out … and it works. (yay!)

When your kids won't wear what you've picked out
I lay out TWO outfits every night.   Two of everything.  Every single night.
I lay out two shirts, two pairs of pants, (they all match one another, so they can go any direction), two pairs of socks, two pairs of underwear.   They get to decide in the morning which outfit they are in the mood for and it eliminates all of our morning “clothing wars”.   I have not had an issue with any of our kids getting dressed since we started doing this.  I just put both outfits right on their floors by their dressers and they can decide when they get up.   I let them help me pick out the first outfit and then I decide on the second on myself.

Want a few more tips?  I am excited to partner with Schoola to share a few more tips if you are letting them pick out their own clothes:

  • What is appropriate?  It is a life-lesson that your kids are going to need to learn.  They need to learn how to match, how to dress for each occasion (jeans are good for school… not for a fancy wedding)
  • Be sure that your kids know that you love that they are independent, but you ultimately decide what they can or cannot wear.
  • Keep up with the trends.  Just because you don’t like it, doesn’t mean that it isn’t popular with your kid’s friends and classmates.
  • Be consistent with rules.   If you don’t let your daughter wear dresses above a certain length, don’t give in or they will ask every time.
  • You get to pick sometimes, too.  Our kids know that on church days, we pick their outfit.  They will have on a nice polo shirt or button-down shirt and it isn’t up for discussion.   They need to look nice.  (If they want to pick which one, that’s fine with me, but they need to know that they dress nicely on these days.)
  • Plan for the week if you can.   This might be easier for your older kids.   They can mix up the days however they choose.
  • Shop for clothes TOGETHER!   We love to look online for clothes that the kids can wear.Our recent find is one that I have to share, because it not only is great for you, but also helps others!   Our family joined forces with Schoola – an online second hand shop – and we are shopping for clothes while helping those in need.  I think this is a win-win!    The clothes are adorable and they do so many amazing things for the community!  Schoola is an online shop dedicated to recycling brand-name women’s, children’s and babies’ clothes, with $2 of every $5 spent going to fund school programs like art, music and PE. Schoola brings new paints to art classes, new instruments to the orchestra, new books to the libraries. Quality clothes get a second life. Parents help parents. Schools help schools. Schoola makes all this happen by giving children the tools they need to succeed..
    Today, they are 10,000 schools strong!  Schoola was founded in order to help children reach their full potential at school.   Even now… They will be accepting clothing donations on behalf of the Malala Fund (The Malala Fund’s aim is to raise girls’ voices and ensure every girl has access to 12 years of free, safe, quality primary and secondary education), with the goal of raising hundreds of thousands of dollars for her foundation through sales of the items on’d like to invite you to take a small step to show your support for Malala today: request a donation bag and clean out your closet to support this incredible young woman with a powerful mission.Plus, the clothes are great!  This year, they joined with Moxie  and  they are able to bring you thousands of new clothing choices every day!moxie

    DID YOU KNOW…. 1st time customers get $15 off and you get $15 for sharing. find your link here:

    Here are a few examples of some clothes that we have ordered from (with 3 out of our 4 kids as my little models)…

    schoola clothes

    I know that you are going to love shopping on Schoola as much as we did!   Just knowing that you are helping others makes it so much more fun… don’t you think?  GET $25 off BY USING THIS LINK CLICK HERE TO SHOP NOW.  (PS- YOU MUST SPEND $25 OR MORE FOR THIS TO WORK)

    WANT TO WIN??   ONE WINNER WILL GET AN ADDITIONAL $25 GIFT CARD!    Just leave a comment letting me know how you give back to others! 

Hi there!

I’m Becky, a former elementary school teacher turned certified child development therapist and blogger. I work at home with my husband and together we are raising (and partially homeschooling) our four children in the Carolinas. I love diet coke, ice cream, and spending time with my family.

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  1. Those are cute outfits! So far my kids don’t care about what they wear, but we’ll see as they get older. The only times they complain is if a button is hard to fasten or something itches. But yeah, I’m all about at least trying to dress them cool. I always ask, ‘Would my husband wear this neon green shirt? Um, probably not’ haha.

  2. Your models are super adorable! We definitely have the same clothing problem. The clothes either “don’t feel right” or she wants something completely opposite for the season (“No, you can’t wear flip-flops…it’s snowing!” lol!)

  3. I am a social worker and my job is to help my clients gain access to resources that they need within our community! It is the best job EVER!!

    1. Oh that’s awesome! I’m a play therapist and feel the same way- it’s so nice to help others, isn’t it?

  4. So far, my 2 and 4 year old do not care what they wear. I love schoola. Great 2nd hand clothes for less!

  5. We are always trying to give back to others. We will donate clothes or toys to people in need or we bake something for someone who is feeling down. We treat others how we want to be treated. If more people would try to treat others how they want to be treated the world might be a better place.

  6. One of my favorite ways to help others is to volunteer. Even just offering to babysit children for free can be a huge blessing to families!

  7. Cute kiddos! Love the outfits and the post. 🙂 I give back to others by helping out at my church’s Thursday free lunch program and donating my time and needed items to friends in need.

  8. We donate all our old clothing and toys to our nearest homeless shelter and of course food a few times a year. We also try to help serve meals at least once a year there as well

  9. We give back by donating the results of spring cleaning – clothes, kitchen supplies, linens, etc, to small local thrift stores. I also build boxes to give to the shelter by buying something every time I go shopping – either a bargain on toothpaste or kleenex, or sale priced canned goods, or seasonal baking items.
    Then when the box is full we take it to a local shelter. It is not costly at all to give this way, and your money can actually go further than paying full price for things. I love taking over a big box!

  10. I am an avid couponer and I give back to others by donating food and supplies to shelters.

  11. I’ve used Schoola in the past it’s a wonderful way to give back. My children often go through clothes and toys and donate what they don’t wear or use anymore. Also volunteering in out community is very important to us.

  12. We give back by donating food to our food shelves when we are able to, and by taking things we do not use to the local thrift store! We also save our box tops for our school!

  13. We give back by donating and just lending a helping hand when we can like helpign a neighbor with yard work babysitting etc