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Let kids flyI had our preschool conference yesterday and we spoke about worry.  Our child’s teacher’s advice is to just “Send him out and let him FLY!”

She said that when we worry so much about our children, we hinder them. I completely agree and I am so guilty of this.  I worry about them and I worry for them.  If I could just let go and let them FLY and see all that they are and not what they will be if they would only  _____  (FILL IN THE BLANK HERE), they will amaze us!

Our older son, Jackson, is  very reserved and I often find myself trying to make him “break out of his shell” instead of just letting him be him. He is the “strong, silent type”, so much like my Grandpap.  Our second son, Beau, is just the opposite.  He is the loud, silly one- always trying to make you smile and laugh.  (So much like my grandmother- I guess that’s why they got along so well.)  In the end, they have their own strengths and we need to see them just as they are: strengths.

So I want to pass that advice on for raising confident kids…  just them them be the person that they were meant to be.  God already knows their future and what they are capable of and we don’t need to worry about it.

Yesterday I read an article that said “If you let your child know that it is OK to make mistakes, they will actually do better in school.”  I hope that my kids know this.
I try to show them through my own mistakes… and teach them to overcome them.
“Give a man a fish & you feed him for a day.  Teach a man to fish & you feed him for a lifetime”)

Let kids be themselves(redbookmagazine- pic)

Let your child be who they are meant to be.  Don’t worry so much. Don’t try to change them.  If they are silly at heart & extroverted, let them be that way.  If they are serious & introverted, let them be that way, too.  Don’t try to make them be someone that they aren’t.   If they want to wear the superman costume to the store, so what?!   It lets them be them (to an extent… not that I would permit this for school or church, but there is a time & place for silliness and its OK to be silly at those times!)

Its hard to let our kids “fly”, because we want them to be everything that we know they can be and to give them the best, but in the end, God has a plan for them.  He knows just what our kids will be and he made them this way.  He loves them and we need to trust in Him.
So for now, I will let my kids FLY.

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Hi there!

I’m Becky, a former elementary school teacher turned certified child development therapist and blogger. I work at home with my husband and together we are raising (and partially homeschooling) our four children in the Carolinas. I love diet coke, ice cream, and spending time with my family.

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  1. Thanks, I needed to hear this. I have four kids, all of very different personalities. It helps to remember to let them be who they are. God made them that way, and he has a plan and purpose for their lives.

    1. Yes, He knows more than we do. That is hard for me to remember at times, too.

  2. Sometimes, there are parents who feel they can do better than their kids, that they do not let them make their own decisions or what. They wants their desires to be obeyed that their kids end up relying on them only. This article is really great.