Today I was asked (in an e-mail from a reader) what she can do to help her child. She described him as angry and “not in control of his emotions”… so I wanted to help. If your child has a behavior that needs changing, today’s post is for you… (and so is this behavior quiz would be the PERFECT place to start, for anyone trying to change negative behaviors)
Most of you know that I was an elementary teacher and now I am a play therapist (child development therapist). Today I want to talk to those of you that feel like you are struggling with your child’s behavior because we’ve all been there.
Sometimes it can feel overwhelming trying to understand what’s really going on behind your child’s behaviors. It can even feel like your child ALWAYS cries, or NEVER calms down on their own. You might feel like there is no end to the behavior.
Maybe your child You can cry over the smallest things or shouts “GO AWAY”, or yells around others, plays rough with others or speaks negatively about themselves. It is so important to get to the bottom of the behavior that is the most trouble for you and your child. You might feel alone…
You are not alone. The good news is that finding answers can be a lot easier than you think. As parents and educators, we have this desire to change ALL of the behaviors at once, leaving us feeling like nothing is working at all.
By focusing on just one behavior you can learn exactly what is causing your child’s behaviors – what revs them up, what calms them down, what helps them focus, and what makes them feel overwhelmed. Better yet, you can help your child notice these behaviors and regulate on their own.
The thing is, there is usually a pattern and we want to help you figure it out. You can grab this sheet (below) by clicking this link.
The key to understanding and changing your child’s worries is observing & documenting their behaviors. This is true with almost anything… if you want to find the WHY, you need to observe & document. That’s how you can help make the change. It starts with the WHY.
Once you are able to see the triggers and causes, you will be equipped to teach your child what sets them off, so they can start to take ownership over their own regulation and ultimately have a life-long skill that will help them be successful and happy in the future.
Start the Quiz here:
Remember, one day at a time… we’re here for you. You can reach your child, change the behavior and help your child be the kind of child that he/she wants to be… HAPPY. 🙂
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