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Mommy, will you lay with me? 

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WHY I STILL CARRY MY KIDS

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Hi there!

I’m Becky, a former elementary school teacher turned certified child development therapist and blogger. I work at home with my husband and together we are raising (and partially homeschooling) our four children in the Carolinas. I love diet coke, ice cream, and spending time with my family.

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  1. I loved your piece, Mummy will you lay with me. I lie with my eldest every night because he fidgets and takes longer to fall asleep on his own. Therefore I have to lie with my youngest so he doesn’t feel left out. Before that, the three of us stretch out on my bed for another chapter of an adventure story. We giggle, predict and ‘ew’ together. Then we do the individual routine. The one thing I need to fix is listening first because you’re right, THAT’S when they want to share. They have slowed down enough to tell me the things that interest or worry them. I’m so tired that I’m busy trying to get them to stop and sleep. 5 minutes each won’t hurt anyone and may actually help them to relax.

      1. I have just discovered your blog and I think it is great! I have tried to get the free downloadable One-On-One Time calendar but seem to keep going in circles. I have not gotten an email with it. Am I missing something?

  2. I love this article. I had just recently stopped laying with my girls at night, and this reminded me of why I needed and wanted to keep doing so. Thank you so much, I feel reconnected with them. The couple of weeks that I didn’t lay with them I felt so distant and sad, and so now I know why. Thank you, Thank you so much!!!!!!

  3. My husband is the one who lays with our little boy each night and gets to listen to the wonderful stories. My husband will come down and ask me “guess what Zach said tonight?” and as usual, it is absolutely hysterical. Our 6 year old is going to be a comedian in the future! I don’t ask to take that away from my husband because he never was able to enjoy that with his daughter due to being from a different marriage, and I was able to with my 16 year old, but I want that connection as well. I guess my question would be, how can I get that without taking it away, or ruining the ritual of him and his dad going upstairs to lie down?

    1. I would just go in first, spend 10 minutes with him & then have your husband come in & you leave (that’s what we do now) 🙂

    2. That is so sweet and thoughtful of you to let him have that special time. ♡

  4. Sadly, Mommy will you lay with me is such a harsh reality. I work evening shifts and my husband works out of town. We have 2 girls ages 7 & 3. After the rat race of leaving work, dinner, homework and baths it’s all I can do to get the girls to bed at a decent time. I swiftly walk into my 7 yr olds room to make sure she has her night light on and that she’s all tucked in. As I walk to her and tell her goodnight she stretches out her arm and pats the empty space beside her and says, “Mommy, lay with me.” It breaks my heart but I always have something else to do. I told her that I had to check on her sister, fold the clothes, check on the dog, etc… As I kissed her forehead and told her goodnight, I walked away. I can’t get those “10” minutes back and it’s time I make some significant changes.

  5. My 5 year old grandson sleeps with me every night. We cuddle and talk about what life was like in the olden days when I was a kid! Lol! (Im 63) We laugh a lot!.And then we race to see who can fall asleep first. He always wins! He wakes up in the morning excited for the new day and loving evety minute of it! I am so blessed!

  6. I have three teenagers ages 20,19 and 17. I missed a lot of these things with my children which I regret so much. I now have legal custody of two children ages 5 and 8. One reason I have the five year old is because she was neglected so bad she was just left in her crib all Day to cry. She used to have such bad night tremors but finally don’t anymore. I have always payed with her to put her to sleep even when we had visitation when she was a baby we would put her between us to sleep and then put her in her crib where she would sleep so well. Now at five we pray and we sing or now sometimes she puts Christian music on her iPod and then We snuggle till she falls asleep. I wouldn’t trade it for the world. Sometimes I think I need it more then she does. I also tuck in and pray with my eight year old every night which makes him and I so happy.

  7. I just love this x as I have always and will always lay by my two boys x it’s the best moment of the day when they truly are in between sleep and wake x the things that they say is so sweet and precise x love it so much x I’m sharing this as I feel every mum and dad should make the time to just sit and take in there children x they only small once x 💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💓

  8. I love this…Ever since I can remember I have “slept with my little for two minutes”. Those 15 minutes are the highlight of our day. Thank you for the article and sharing the importance of those few minutes we sometimes take for granted.

  9. Hi there! I’m a dad with the most amazing little girl of 7 years old!! The mommy lay with me most had me in tears my daughter is my life be lately work and the days to day crazy has had me feeling like I’m lacking in the bonding moments… I have taken the last week off and next week aswell to be able to pick her up and drop her off from school! Our nights though always end with cuddles and conversation!! Everytime I look at her I see how fast she is growing and even things like electronics have now started to be put away because I have noticed just how much of a negative effect they actually have on kids!! Thank you for your web page as it has really made a difference with how I look at a lot of things with parenting !!

  10. Dear Becky thank you so much for you love and advice on children ,i look after a child from our family that wasn’t so lucky to have a mum and dad he lives with us and we love him so much we just want to do our bes for him and give him the love and time that he needs to spend with him ,as we are older people and i want him to grow up into nice loving young man he is so beautiful and full of love .
    Thank you Becky to help us with you beautiful advice from older carer xoxo

  11. Thanks Becky. My 9 year old daughter always wanted us to lay with her. I thought it was not right as everyone kept saying you should leave her , she is too attached and so on. I realize that it’s about spending time rather the best time.
    So have changed my perspective & will be there for her always while putting her to sleep in the night.
    Thanks .
    Regards Jessica.

  12. Dear Becky, your blog has reminded me to be more consistent in laying with my 9. She still asked for me most nights. I realised the importance of laying with her, especially if she asked. I will put down my things and give them the time they need.