A while back, I wrote a post about the 5 times that your child needs more one on one time. Today, I want to tell you what NOT to do during those one-on-one times.
- Don’t multitask. Stop looking at your phone, checking the mail or looking at your notebook. Don’t carry laundry into the laundry room while your child is talking to you. Don’t talk about things that aren’t related to what you are doing (example: during a dress-up session, don’t say “Ugh. I wish the doctor would call me. I am waiting to hear back about an appointment. I’m so frustrated by it.”) Remember- those things can wait. Your child’s years as a child won’t wait.
- Don’t preach. While I am all for teaching lessons, there is a time and a place for them. Don’t try to talk about why she should be putting a blue dress on Elsa and not a purple one. Let their imagination be your guide, too.
- Don’t take one on one time away. If your day is planned and your child is prepared, don’t take it away as a punishment. Your child needs you now more than ever. Your time should never be a reward or punishment – it should be a given.
- Don’t rush through it. If you find yourself looking at the clock, set it for 20 minutes and play until the timer goes off. Say to your child “I have to set my timer to remind me to start the laundry, or I will get so caught up in playing with you that hours will go by and I won’t even realize it!”
- Don’t call people during your time with your child. Put your child first. Talk to your child.
Remember, these moments won’t last long, but right now you are building a foundation for a future relationship. You are creating a bond that won’t be broken.