Today I am working with BBVA Compass to shed some light on balancing work & family… and on the guilt that working mothers feel. It is OK to let go of that guilt.
I work from home, as does my husband. Is it hard to balance it? Yes. Am I happy that I am able to help support my family? Yes.
Did you know that around half of all workers in the US are women? That’s a lot! With a lot of those women being mothers, it’s no wonder they want to find a balance between work & family. In fact, 33 percent of parents say they are not spending enough time with their children. The truth is parents today are spending MORE time with their kids than past generations, Pew found.
Mothers spend 40% more hours with their kids than mothers did in 1965. In 1975, moms spent just 7 hours per week with their kids. Today, working mothers spend as much time with their children as stay-at-home moms did in the 1970s.
What does that tell us? It tells us that we have a better balance of life than we thought… that we can work outside of the home & raise our children. Showing our children that we can have it all, work & a family, may be a great thing for them.
“A Harvard Business School study of 50,000 adults found that in 24 countries, the daughters whose moms worked before the girls were 14 years old:
- finished more years of education
- earned higher salaries
- were more likely to be employed and in supervisory roles than their peers whose moms stayed at home
In the United States, the Harvard study found that daughters of working mothers earned 23 percent more than daughters of stay-at-home mothers, and sons spent seven and a half more hours a week on child care and 25 more minutes on housework.” ~ Emma Johnson, Bright Ideas for Business
Yes, more mothers are working, but we also spending more time with our children. Isn’t it great the we can do both? That we have the choice to do what works best for our family?
My mom worked and I work. I want my children to see that I have goals and I am working towards them.
If you feel guilty working, I bet you are spending more time with your kids than you think. I loved the idea found in Bright Ideas for Business: Working Moms Mean Business to clock your hours. “So many parents are stunned to learn that on average we spend far more hours with our kids today than parents in generations past. To see how you actually spend your time, log your hours for a week or two in a simple Excel spreadsheet, or even your calendar. Then, make the most of your minutes and hours. For example, moms of young kids who wake up excruciatingly early may find they can spend two or three hours together each weekday morning. Make a chunk of that play or reading time.”
Remember – you are doing what is right for your family. You are doing what YOU know to be best for YOUR family and no two families are alike. If you choose a career in the workforce to support your family- be proud of that. Try to let go of the guilt…
As Candalyn Wider says in Bright Ideas for Business “No more guilt. I’m a good mom, and a good student, a good employee, and a good person. I’m proud of my ability to balance all of those roles (over time at least, if not all in the same day!).”