After reading this post about night-time training on Yahoo’s website, I wanted to share my thoughts on how some kids just can’t be night-time trained. Our 2 year old is already training herself and our oldest child was night-trained at 20 months, but then our other children took much longer… and that’s OK!
So, many of you (when I say “many” I mean a TON!) have asked me how to help older children that are still wetting the bed, so today I am sharing an awesome tip from my friend, Kristy’s, pediatrician.
First, let me tell you how I was amazed at how quickly I was able to night-train our first child to use the potty. He was very young (almost two). It took only a few night and that was it- he never used a diaper again. So, I assumed that they would all be this easy.
Once our second son was born, he was potty trained in three days, as well (in the daytime). He was not quite two and I was sure that his nights would be as easy as our first child. I was wrong.
He had accidents every night.
Fast forward four years… he still wet the bed. I wouldn’t even call them accidents, because he isn’t just going once or twice. No, it is more like every few hours. He was soaking his diaper every night. As often as he goes in the day, that is how often he was going at night.
Now, I have NEVER been a pull-up person (as you know from my book, I don’t use pull-ups because I have never seen a need for them.) I don’t buy them. So, I use full diapers at night- they hold more, in my opinion, and you can pull them down just as easily if you put them on just a tad bit looser.
Ok… so what did I do to stop the night-wetting? Well, our pediatrician told us that we didn’t need to worry about it until he was 8. She said that we could give him medicine, which I was not willing to do. She said that they could do surgery down the road, if it is still an issue, but I am hoping to help him overcome this with without medical intervention.
That’s when I talked to my dear friend. Her daughter is the same age and is doing the same thing. Her daughter’s pediatrician gave her different advice and I LOVE It!
Here is what I WAS doing:
1- no drinks after dinner.
2- carrying him to the bathroom at midnight to go (or before we went to bed).
Here is the NEW advice that we are going to try:
1- Still no drinks after dinner
2- Instead of carrying him to the bathroom, wake him up!
Have him get out of bed, by himself.
Have him walk to the bathroom, by himself.
Have him wash his hands, by himself (well- you need to stay close to your child, because they are drowsy and could fall, but they are doing the rest.
Do not carry them. You WANT them to remember waking up to go by themselves. In the past, so many times I would ask our son “Do you remember Mommy taking you to the potty last night?” and he would say “No.”
This new way is different… You want them to know what is going on.
The reason that you are waking him? This is causing his body to recognize that he needs to physically wake up and walk himself to the bathroom. He is creating a habit of waking up at night. He is telling his body: “I need to wake up and go to the bathroom.” He is making all of the effort on his part, so his body is learning to wake up.
The doctor also said this… “IT WILL TAKE 6-8 WEEKS FOR THIS TO HAPPEN WITHOUT YOUR HELP… 6 -8 weeks to see real results (dry diapers or sheets in the morning).”
Yes, it will take some effort, but in the end, it will be worth it.
So, tell me… what advice have you received? What have you been trying?
Ps- if your child has a sleepover- here is some advice to help in that area (because accidents can be embarrassing).
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